The Lessons of the Bay

The Lessons of the Bay

Benefits of life on the water.

I have never lived more than 20 minutes away from a body of water, and I couldn't be more thankful for that experience. Whether it be working, playing, or just relaxing, being near the water has taught me a lot about life.

1. Life is all about the unknowns, and that is OK.

As a kid, running through and swimming in the Chesapeake Bay was one of the most exciting things to do with my friends. But thinking back, we never really considered what could be in the water. Shells and crabs covered the bottom but we were much more concerned with going about our business as usual. Although there were things on the bottom that we didn't know about, we adapted as we went, feeling out the layout around us. If you learn to feel things out as you go, life will be much less stressful.

2. Nothing that is worth having will come easily.

In my short career farming oysters, I learned to do what was necessary to get the job done. Whether it was 4:30 a.m. or 6:30 p.m., the work was done when the work was done. The work is dirty, sweaty and grimy, but it is also some of the most satisfying work there is to complete. Through rain, heat and cold, we did it all. If you want to see some of the most beautiful scenery you will ever encounter, you have to get up early. Whether you're on a boat going to work or a blanket on the beach, nothing beats watching the sunrise on the water. The sights and sounds that you encounter make the lack of sleep much more enjoyable.

3. Some things are just out of your hands.

Inevitably, the one day that all of the people you want to go to the beach with are available, it will rain. The first time you try to bring friends from out of town on your boat the water will be choppy. When you really just want to go sit on the beach and relax alone, there will be tourists stretched across every inch of the sand with screaming children in the water. Even with all the planning in the world, sometimes you will have to be flexible and make do with what you have. A spontaneous Plan B is all the more exciting if you have to come up with it on the fly.

Growing up on the water was such a blessing for me and created so many amazing opportunities for me to grow as a person and appreciate what is around me. For that, I will be forever thankful.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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