I have always had a close relationship with all of my family members, but it took me a while to realize how grateful I am for growing up with such a large family. Of course, there were times when I felt lonely, but a big family never allows those feelings to last. They make everybody feel part of the group because after all, you can't pick your family! Here are 15 lessons I learned growing up with a big family.
1. Get to the dinner table first
2. Your guest will be interrogated
If you bring your girlfriend, boyfriend, or even your best friend, they will be asked a
3. Keep your Christmas present opinions to yourself
That ugly red sweater your aunt surprised should put a smile on your face, at least a fake one. After all, it’s the thought that counts!
4. Appreciate your grandparents
They may call you a different name each time they see you, but that doesn’t change the amount of love they have for you. They have to remember a lot of people’s names, so don’t be upset if they forget you this time.
5. Vacation means kids sleep on the floor
It is very unlikely that every kid, or any kid at all, will get to sleep on a bed on vacation. So, grab your pillow and sleeping mattress and try to find a comfortable position. Nobody likes a whiny little cousin.
6. Participate in the family games
As corny as this may sound, some of the best family memories are made through playing simple games like cards or “friendly” football. Just make sure you are ready to suffer the consequences of losing.
7. Get used to the noise
There is no such thing as “quiet time.” Learn to become accustomed to noise; it is actually a very valuable life skill!
8. It is okay if you don’t recognize everyone
People grow and their appearances change, so it is okay if you don’t remember who is who in the room.
9. A Family picture is rare
Getting everyone together, in one room, at the same time, is extremely hard. But when those moments do come around, try to capture it all.
10. Some people will always be the center of attention
Someone is bound to demand their voice to be heard. They may seem annoying, but they just want everyone to be part of the conversation.
11. Hand-me-downs
Whether it’s your cousin’s old suit or your aunt’s old necklace, these items are symbols of your relationship with your family. They should appreciate your fashion sense.
12. No privacy
Allow your experiences to be shared and heard by everyone in your family because there is no doubt your mom already told everyone. No secret ever stays private.
13. Holiday meal preparing is a job
Allow the older members of your family to take care of these plans. There is bound to be an argument, so try not to get involved.
14. Moving up to the Adult Table is a big deal
This means no more finger food or plastic cups. The adult table is your promotion into a sophisticated world! But be prepared to sit through conversations about topics you find irrelevant.
15. Goodbyes last another hour
When your mom says it’s time to go, prepare yourself for at least another hour of goodbye kisses and last minute conversations.
But, overall, the most important lesson I learned is the meaning of family. "Lilo & Stitch" said it best...
