Too often as girls, we get caught up in the bad aspects of relationships and overall just bad guys. I know several people as well as myself that are guilty of "looking for the fault" because we either set our expectations too high or we are just plain disappointed by men in our lives way too often. We get adjusted to the routine of thinking a guy is great yet waiting for that downfall like the "but" in a sentence. Eventually, it becomes a second sense and you do not get excited when you are talking to a guy that seems rather nice because you know there will be something to ruin it all. But, what if there isn't?

In the sensitive society we have grown to be we are often too cautious and miss out on what could be really valuable relationships all due to being afraid of being hurt or just assuming that there are no "good guys" out there anymore. Well, we couldn't be more wrong. Turns out that there is great men all around us and we are all too caught up in looking for the wrong things. The second we take a moment to ourselves to step back and evaluate what we really want we start looking for the right things instead of jumping at anything that comes to us.

I have found for myself that I got caught up in the "charmers" and fell for words that were never true. I never saw past the facade of guys that were not actually meaning what they said. But, some guys do mean what they say. Be surprised gals, guys CAN mean what they say. We as independent and careful gals try to avoid hurt at all costs so we sometimes dodge the things that seem the most real. You can even find yourself thinking it is too good before anything ever even starts and relationships start to feel like a game of "who cares less" meaning they have all the power when in reality we all lose at that game.

Caring less does not make you any less vulnerable and avoiding the real deal does not make you any smarter just means you are missing out. If you are looking in the right places and have that guy that gets excited to see the place you went to school and visit the very places you hungout in when you were only fifteen, the guy that loves the baby curly hairs you hate so much and wishes you wouldn't straighten them all the time, the guy that writes you letters to tell you how he feels unexpectedly, and can't help but smile when you laugh then maybe you have found the one. And then again, maybe you haven't.

Here is what I can tell you though, there are guys out there that break the rules of society and do not set out to ruin girl's spirits. There are also guys that want to be in relationships too. That does not mean all of them are that way but it is worth the chance to be quite honest. In life people will say "you win some and you lose some" but " if you never take the chance to fall you may never learn how to fly."