What is an in-betweener? I mean is it even a word that exists? Well according to urban dictionary it is someone who is “not cool enough to be popular nor nerdy enough to be a geek.”
What about being an in-betweener when it comes to love? Some people are romantics, while others are realists. Well, I just happen to be smacked right in the middle, and you may be too.
How do you become an in-betweener for example? Well no one is just born into one, it takes life experiences to mold you into this new breed that exists in the 21st century. Growing up you are pushed into tales of young love and Disney movies that teaches us about how our one true love is out there waiting on our front porch or even love at first sight does exist. And it could! We are taught that a man or woman will do anything for us when it comes to love. We are brought into this world where love does exist and it’s easy to find… right? Until you find it and realize love is just thrown around as people desperately seek it from anyone who deems you attractive. We are all brought up as romantics whether we like it or not.
Then there are the realists. They are the ones that are more cautious and know that love doesn’t exist the way we were grown up to be. They understand that there are other factors when it comes to loving others and decide not to let anyone break them down or give their power to another through love. Realists in this day and age are also known as people who contribute in the hook-up culture. The safe route, the one where there are more broken hearts hiding behind lost souls who desperately feel love.
So what about the in-betweener and how do you get there? Well if you are in between something then you fall into my very own category. You no longer deem fit of being a romantic nor want to participate in the hook-up culture. Once upon a time you believed in “the one” and “your soul mate,” your missing puzzle piece. But when you give your all, soaring endlessly blind to the sky, you eventually fall. Fall back into the land of careless sex you don't want to be part of (not that it is a bad thing) and a game board full of clues. One thing you know for sure is you do not want to fall into the darkness of what you believe is not a perfect fit for you, but you're also too scared to climb back up on the ladder of love. You are constantly dodging the ones who are lusting after you, but scared of the ones who want to love you. You are finally a strong person who survived falling down from a broken heart, but not sure if you are ready to take the easy way out.
The in-betweener is in constant struggle of trying not to get to know someone so close, but close enough to get hurt. But also wanting to get close without getting close enough to not get hurt. It is basically as complicated as this last sentence. But if you take time and a second to unravel it, then you will understand the battle.
But the real question is… is the in-betweener strong enough to give “love” another chance?
The answer is always.
