We all have broken relationships in our lives. It could be with an ex-best friend, an ex-boyfriend, family, or maybe even God. Sometimes nothing out of the ordinary happened; you just drifted apart. Other times there was mass chaos that caused you to end your relationship with someone. We think it is easier to hold onto the grudge than to look at what is really happening and move on, but it actually becomes harder. Holding onto grudges is no way to live, and one day you'll wake up and regret them. That is why it is so important to fix them while you have the chance.
I've held onto lots of grudges in my life. I still hold onto a grudge from seventh grade, when a teacher accused me of cheating, which resulted in me almost failing the class. I've held grudges on girls who weren't nice to me. I've even held grudges on coaches who I felt had caused me to lose my passion. It has occurred to me that the only person who is at fault for all of these things is myself. Sure, my teacher could've believed me when I told her very blatantly that I did not cheat, the girls could've been nicer, and the coaches could've gone easier on me, but the only thing to blame here is the way I've reacted to things. That is how we need to look at things when trying to mend relationships. We need to put ego aside for a moment and just apologize, and try to move forward in a positive direction.
On the other side of broken relationships, sometimes you drift away from people. There was no fight that took place, no falling out, you just kind of stopped talking altogether. Those are sometimes the most painful because you constantly think about reaching out to that person, but then you fall short and don't go through with it. Now don't get me wrong, I believe that some relationships aren't meant to last forever. But the ones that have ended just because you or that person haven't put forth effort to be friends are the relationships that often need the most fixing.
Since letting go of these grudges, which has been a process nonetheless, I have been an overall happier person. I tend to shed more positive light on situations when once I would've drifted to the more negative aspect of things. The point overall is that letting go of grudges and fixing relationships has made me a happier person. Holding onto grudges, I have found, is actually quite exhausting. It doesn't make you a better person, and it doesn't help you advance into being the awesome person that you're going to be. Instead, it holds us back when we don't have the people with us who were made to move forward with us.
