The Horrifying Change In Relationships
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The Horrifying Change In Relationships

Dating is nothing like what it used to be

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The Horrifying Change In Relationships
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What happened to the "old" kind of dating? The kind where the guy would ask the girl out in person, he would pick her up around six, they would go to dinner and a movie and then they would see each other again if it went well. He would be with one girl and that would be enough.

Today, dating has become almost non-existent. "Dating" has turned into texts, Facebook messages, and other non-dates. Instead of getting to know someone in person, you get to "know" them through technology. The thing about talking to someone through text means that you don't truly get to know them, you only know what they are telling you over text.

Online dating is becoming more and more common but there's this dirty word called "Tinder". Tinder is essentially a "hook up" app. it uses your location to find others near you to become potential "matches." Although, unlike other dating websites, you get to decide what specific people you want to try to match with solely based on a picture of them and a short bio. If you find someone attractive, you swipe right and if you don't have any interest in them, you swipe left. If the same person you swiped right also swipes you right, then, you become a "match." So, there is absolutely zero science behind it, it all depends on who you find attractive. This is a great app for those involved in the evolving "hit-it-and-quit-it" culture.

Another way relationships have changed for the worse is that the guy is not going to pick the girl up at her house to go on a date. In fact, you'd be lucky if you got a text from him saying that he wanted to see you when the sun was still up. You'll probably just get a text around 1AM saying "Netflix and chill?" or "Want to come over?" Now some people may think that this is a sweet gesture but it is not. It could also be extremely tempting but don't let yourself be fooled. We both know exactly what he wants and there is a good chance he has been drinking. This is even worse if the girl has developed feelings because she wants to believe that he truly wants to see her and spend time with her. He may even ask how her day was but he honestly does not give a f***. He's just trying to make himself seem like less of a douche.

These men (or should I say boys) are the worst kind of people to get involved with if you're someone who has not conformed to societies "new" form of dating. Girls are way more in touch with their feelings and emotions which means they won't try stick around if they have no emotional connection to someone or if they don't want to see if the relationship would go any further. Guys on the other hand, could care less if they could see themselves in a relationship with the girl, they only care about getting laid late Friday night after they leave a party. Keep in mind though, that is only if he didn't already take a different girl home. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but you're likely to not be the only girl he is "hooking up" with.

Which then leads to the next point that relationships are far from monogamous these days. It doesn't matter if two people are committed to each other or not, people are no longer satisfied with only one person. Now, I'm obviously not saying that everyone is like this but, it is becoming more and more common. Some guys will probably argue that they are just "getting the college experience." No, absolutely not. Experiencing college is NOT seeing how many girls you can sleep with per semester. It's about getting involved with your college community, meeting new people (without having sex with them), joining clubs and organizations, staying up all hours of the night studying, finding yourself and your passions, quickly running out of all the money you saved over the summer and gaining the freshman fifteen. So no, sleeping around is not a necessary element to experience college.

Props to all the guys who still date the "old fashioned" way, the world is in desperate need for more people like you.

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