Most people can remember a time that someone had feelings for them that they did not personally share, we've all probably "Friendzoned" someone. But what does that even mean, and should we feel bad for doing it?

No, obviously; but in order to properly showcase why, here is my personal account with a guy who didn't want to be my friend.

To Whom it May Concern,

From the moment we met, you made yourself very clear that you had feelings for me. Within the hour of meeting me you:

• called me pretty
• tried putting your arm around me
• gave me your cell phone number

You seemed nice, and while I wasn’t really looking for anything at the time, I wanted to be your friend. I saw you as funny, sweet, smart; but I didn’t see you as a boyfriend.

Weeks passed, we’d hang out, sometimes for hours on end; as time passed you became more and more clear that you were not interested in being my friend. You'd text me constantly, you wanted to hang out every night, especially alone. Every conversation I had within our friend group became, “Why don’t you give him a chance?”, “He’s so nice to you, why not date him?

Because I didn’t really want to.

But we started hanging out more, and our friendship was growing; and then, because we were spending so much time together, and we often drank together on the weekends, I ended up kissing you from a dare.

So, I just kind of went along with it.

You were really nice at first; I’d see you everyday, you had me meet your family. You befriended my friends, and everything started to make sense in a way. By the end of the semester I had actually started to grow feelings for you, yes, those feelings.

But once I was showing those feelings, you made a complete 180. It went from you texting me everyday to me texting you once or twice a week, sometimes without response. It became me driving an hour to you every week without as little much as a kiss on the cheek, or a half-hearted “I missed you.”

You started to turn from indifferent to cold. You'd question my intelligence in front of our friends. You’d start arguments for no reason. You insulted my house and said I lived in the “ghetto,” and refused to ever come over. You’d try and say my eyes weren’t green, even though you knew it’s one of the few things I’ve always liked about my appearance. You flirted with my friends in front of me, and told me to my face that you had no intentions to be “monogamous.”

You broke up with me on my birthday.

When we ended our relationship, I had no interest in being your friend. I told you that, you persisted.

I again tried to be your friend, after everything.

I found out that you lied about pretty much everything about your personality. What you believed in, just to get me to like you.

And after time, I realized I wasn’t really a person to you. I was this “goal” you had. The only reason you had interest in me was because I didn’t have interest in you. Once I showed my feelings for you, you lost interest.

I was a game to you.

But this writing isn’t about you, in fact I don’t want you even for a second that you ever pass my mind. This is for the girls reading this.

Ladies, and quite frankly gentlemen, the friendzone does NOT exist. Being “nice” to someone does not entitle you to their time, their affection, or their love. Just because someone grows feelings for you doesn’t mean you have to feel bad for not having those same feelings.

The entire idea of the "Friendzone" is an entirely misogynistic perspective that was created out of decades of media bore into the minds of this generation that the "nice guy" always gets the girl in the end. The idea that girls who won't date guys under them (at least physically) are judgmental and cruel.

Just because a person is nice to you, does not mean they’re meant to be with you. Just because your friends think you should give him a chance does not entitle him to any of your time. You could end up in a miserable relationship because you didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Your feelings matter just as much as theirs do.

Sometimes your heart knows better than your head; and you shouldn’t lead somebody on if you have no intentions of following through.

And if someone isn’t willing to be just your friend, then you know you’ve made the right choice.