To the girl whose best friends are all in relationships,

You got this girl; I know its hard watching all the people closest to you get close with another person. I know it’s hard to feel like your being left behind. But trust me when I say you are not. I first encountered this experience in high school I had just recently broke up with my ex boyfriend and I was ready to be single. That was until I looked around to see all my friends with their boyfriends and for the first time I felt lost. I didn’t have a boyfriend and now there was another person in the lives of my best friends who in some sense took power over our relationship. At first I hated this, I hated the fact that my best friends sometimes chose another person over me. I hated that I could no longer just assume that my friends would hang with me at every second of the day. I hated having to compete with another person for my best friends attention.

I then looked around to see all my best friends happier then I have ever seen. And now 4 years letter in my last year of college I am in the same situation. I look around to see most of my best friends happy with there boyfriends. This time I can approach it in a different way. This time I look at it with happiness for my best friends instead of bitterness. Yes sometimes I wish we could all just go back to freshman year being together all the time with no worries about boys. But I know that is unrealistic and I am happy. I am happy I am where I am. I am happy for my best friends and their boyfriends. I am happy that there is someone who can put a smile so big on the faces of my best friends. I am happy to know that love can appear at the least expected times. I am happy that I know one day when I find happiness my best friends will be there happy for me.

So to the girl, who is sad, wishing there best friends did not have boyfriends. Take a good look at your friends, look at the love in their eyes, look at the smile on their face. Look at all the happiness that one person can cause them. Now think about everything you’ve ever wanted for your best friend. I know that I want happiness for mine and if that is coming from a boy then that is what I want for them. They are not replacing you and they are not pushing you aside. Right now this exactly where they need to be and when your time comes they will support you. So it is more then okay to be upset, to feel like your being pushed aside, to miss your best friend. But always remember they are never far and they are happier then ever. So to the girl whose best friends are all in relationships I have been there I still am. It never gets easier feeling less alone but you will soon realize that this isn’t a sad moment this is happy moment and you and your best friend need to cherish it together.