Dear beautiful girl,
Whether a boyfriend broke up with you for another girl, cheated on you, or simply the guy you liked expressed interest in someone else - it hurts no matter what. The level of attraction for this other girl was greater than you. This guy thought, "Well this girl is prettier, smarter, and better than you, so I'm going to pursue her!" The thing is that it's not true.
Yeah, the girl may be pretty, talented, or smart - but you are as well. Please don't think because this guy chose another girl, then it's the end for you. Whether you are 20, 30, 40, or 50 years old and beyond - life still goes on. Darker nights become bright mornings. There may not be an opportunity for love in the near future, but there's an opportunity for hope. You are unique and special. Someday, maybe a few months or years from now - there will be a guy who will love you for who you are. And keep that, store it in your heart. Never give up on the chance of love. This is the time to focus on you and strengthen yourself. The good news is that you made it through the rough part: the realization that this guy will no longer be your interest. And, there's always bigger fish in the sea. You will meet guys who turn out to be jerks, and that is life. Not every guy will be Prince Charming, especially in college.
I also want to let you know that you don't need a guy to make you happy. Sure, it's great to have someone to love and cuddle, but as long as you have a support system of friends and family....you will be just fine. In fact, without this guy in your life, you will become stronger and more independent. Living single is the best, because you can do what you want without anyone stopping you (money, however, does play a factor.) Friends and family will always be there. The older you get, you realize who your real friends are. Those people will be there for you in the darkest of times. This is the time for you to go after your dreams and work on yourself. There's nothing wrong with that. In fact, single people are brave because they are making decisions for themselves. You don't have to constantly rely or worry about someone.
Wipe away your tears, take a shower, go for a walk, or hang out with your friends. Do whatever you must do to keep busy! I can say from recent experience that it sucks, but you cannot let him win. Do not let him take something from you - especially your dignity. It almost feels like this, but you cannot let him win. Rise above this, and you will see that everything will work out. You won't miss him. Day by day, you will slowly realize his irrelevance and focus on the things that matter.
I'm here for you, and I hope these words can bring you some closure and awareness in your life.
Sincerely,
Sarah
