“Patience is not just about waiting for something… it’s about how you wait, or your attitude while waiting.” - Joyce Meyer
I know how you feel. I know that you are frustrated because it seems everyone around you has found their Mr. Right, but you can’t seem to find yours. I know that you are waiting for someone you can truly see yourself having a life with and I know that you think that there is no point in dating someone unless you can see yourself marrying them. But that guy just hasn’t come along yet, and you’re starting to get worried. Stop worrying, because there is nothing wrong with you. There's nothing wrong with waiting for someone who you believe is worthy of your time, someone you want to be sure will treat you the way you deserve. There's nothing wrong with waiting, even though it is hard.
Waiting has many advantages. I have seen some of my friends have their hearts broken multiple times because they jump into a relationship with any guy they get a crush on. I’m not promising you that your heart will never be broken along the way, but when you wait to be with someone who is ready for a serious relationship everything is different. God has an amazing plan for you. He will put the people in your life that you need when you need them. He may be making you wait because you have to learn how to be happy on your own before you can allow someone else to make you happy. He may be making you wait because you need to need to love Him fully before you can love someone else fully. He may be making you wait because your Mr. Right isn’t ready to love you the way you deserve yet.
I know how it feels to wait. I know how it feels to think there is something wrong with you because you just can't seem to find the right guy. I know how insanely frustrating it is to watch your friends fall in love and be jealous of their relationships. But someday you will meet the guy that you are supposed to be with, and you will understand why waiting was a good idea. You might not know that he is the one immediately, it might take some time. It might be love at first sight, or it may be someone you’ve known your whole life. But when the time is right, he will be there exactly when you need him, because that’s how God’s timing works.
When you're together everything will feel right. He will know that when you're upset you'll need a big hug and he will make you smile by bringing you flowers unexpectedly. He will calm you down when you are angry and build you up when you are sad. There will be things you won't like about him, like the way he snores or how he will ignore you sometimes, but those things will be minor in comparison to what you love about him. There will be moments of pure bliss and there will be times when you want to pull his hair out, but that is all part of the adventure.
So while you’re waiting, make yourself happy. Don’t feel sorry for yourself because you are alone, but instead, embrace your freedom. Read lots of books, visit the places that you have always wanted to see, buy yourself flowers, treat yourself to a spa day or a spa week for that matter. Become the person you think your future husband deserves. Find a passion or a hobby and pursue it, such as painting, yoga, or photography. Most importantly, become happy with who you are. It’s okay to be alone, and it’s OK to be comfortable with being alone.
Just remember, he is out there somewhere and he is worth waiting for.