To those who have a big heart,

I’m in your position. I know exactly what it’s like to pour your heart out to someone who will never do the same for you. I’ve done just about everything in the book to save relationships with people who now won’t even give me the time of day. You’re probably seeing a familiar pattern within your own life, and wondering to yourself, where did I go wrong?

Easily the biggest lesson I have ever learned is that just because you love someone, doesn’t mean they will repay you with the same amount of love and respect. This doesn’t just go for romantic relationships, but friendships as well. Girls with big hearts just want to be friends with everyone, when sadly, this isn’t realistic. We put ourselves out there, wanting to please people all the time. We just want to make everyone happy all the time. Our intentions come from the heart, but not everyone sees it from that point of view.

I, like many who have big hearts, have been sucked into believing that I mean more to someone than I actually do. It’s hard knowing that you would do anything for this person, but know they would never return the favor. You find yourself questioning why and how you got completely pulled into someone so deep. You know that you need to move on because this person doesn’t treat you the way your heart deserves. But something in you knows that you just can’t hurt this person, despite the countless times they’ve hurt you. Deep down you want to, but you just can’t.

In moments like these, I find myself wishing I didn’t have a big heart. How easy would it be to treat this person the same way they’ve treated me all along? I guarantee they would be upset. But in these instances, I have to remind myself that possessing a big heart is a rare and beautiful thing, and I should be thankful.

My only goal for 2017 is to make sure I keep spreading the joy I have in my heart with others, and I hope you all will do the same. Sure it can be frustrating when you don’t get the same response in return, but you have to remind yourself that not everyone has the same heart you do. And that’s completely okay. We all have different ideas of love, so you can’t beat yourself up over someone who doesn’t treat you exactly how you treat them.

Some day, us girls with big hearts are going to come across people who love watching us love others. Some day, a special guy will come along who will love and understand us. Some day, we will finally receive the love we have been pouring out to others for years.

But until then, keep loving others as much as your big heart will allow.

Love,

A girl who is proud to have a huge heart