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To The Girl Who Didn't Get The Guy

It hurts right now, but I promise it will get better

 Lauren Birkey
Dec 07, 2015
Ball State University
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To The Girl Who Didn't Get The Guy
Andrew E Weber

I’m sorry things didn’t work out. You really wanted to be with him, and for some reason you can’t. I’ve been there too, and I’m sorry.

Listen to your friends. Your friends will say he isn’t worth it. They will say that if you were meant to be together, he would have made it happen. They will say that one day everything is going to work out. Part of you doesn’t want to admit they’re right, but they are. Your friends will also take you out for ice cream and buy you drinks and watch movies while you recover, so keep them close. They love you and want the best for you.

Do not think, “I should have told him how I felt, then none of this would have happened.” Mistakes can happen: maybe you missed the chance to tell him, maybe he missed the chance to tell you. But if that is the case, and you both still love each other, it will work out in some way.

That being said, any guy who causes you pain is not worth it. If he cared about you the same way you cared about him, he would not do this to you. If he considered you an important person in his life, he would not do this to you. If he considered you an equal, he would not do this to you. Anyone — anyone — who makes you feel this way is not worth your time.

You are worthy of being chased. If he has made no move to pursue you, it is time to move on. If he got scared because you were pursuing him, then he’s not worth it. You deserve someone who will pursue you, who will rise to the challenge, who will respond to you the way you respond to him.

It’s OK to cry. It’s OK to listen to angry music. It’s OK to vent to your friends about it. Your sadness and disappointment are always valid, whether he was a boyfriend for years or a crush for a month. Get all the pain out so that it can be replaced with good things. Soon the sad music will be replaced with laughter at a bar, with spontaneous runs to Target, with epic game nights. Things suck now, but they will get better.

You are beautiful, inside and out. You are intelligent. You are strong. You are worthy of love. It might not happen as soon as you like, but I promise you that your heart will heal, and you will find a person who will treat you like the treasure you are.

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