Dear Future Husband,
Right now I have no idea who you are. I may have already met you or I might not know you for a few years but wherever you are just know that there’s a few things that you should know about me. I can’t say that I will be a perfect partner and that I won’t make mistakes. I will carry baggage from old relationships and there will be some scars that will affect decisions that I may make. All that I ask is that you understand it’s not intentional and that I’m a work in progress.
I will always be your biggest fan. I’ll support all your dreams and aspirations and make sure that I continue to push you when you’re feeling down. I will do everything I can to never let you give up and become stagnant. My motivation style may be a little “pushy” at times but it’s my way of showing support. Always remember, your success is just as important to me as my own.
I’m slow to open up. I’m very much that person who keeps a lot of things internal and would rather work on them by myself on my own time. It’s not that I don’t appreciate your attempts and I am grateful for your thoughts, but I won’t always be responsive. Don’t take this personally. It’s not me pushing you away, it’s simply me being me. I have struggled with sharing my feelings and opening up to people my entire life and I’m sure it will always be a struggle of mine.
I’m a bit of a “hard-head”. I’m stubborn and very adamant when I truly believe in something. So whether it’s a conflict with the kids or I believe there’s an issue that should be handled in a different way, I won’t back down. Now this doesn’t mean I won’t compromise, but if you try to brush past my thoughts and feelings it will only escalate. All that I ask is that you listen to me and try to understand where I’m coming from.
If I’m angry just let me be angry for a few hours. I promise I will calm down after an hour of gospel music and playing with the kids. I will never go to bed angry because I honestly don’t remain angry that long. Don’t try and force a conversation. Don’t try and fix the problem right then and there; just let me be. I promise I will come to you when I’m ready to talk.
Lastly, I love you. That’s something that you may not hear me say very often. I’m not the most affectionate person. But always know that. If I don’t say it often enough always remember that one simple fact. I can’t promise a life without trials and tribulations, but together we can get through anything. You’ll probably also know this by now, but I’m a cornball. But this will just make the hard times a little better.
P.S. - I’m not a huge fan of cooking, so I hope you love it enough for the both of us!
Love,
Your Future Wife
