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The 5 Misunderstood Languages Of Love

Love can be tricky, there's no denying that.

Jaya Davis
Aug 16, 2017
Pennsylvania State University
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Many people don't know this but there's is five ways to love someone. Dr. Chapman, the author of "The Five Love Languages," teaches that everyone has a primary and a secondary love language. Through his quiz on his website, you can determine what your personal love languages are. His theory preaches that people often give love in the way they prefer to receive love because not everyone has the same primary language complications which often occur in relationships, due to lack of communication — but by understanding our partners' inherent love language, we can understand our signifcant other even more.

Which language are you? Here are the five love languages:

1. Words of affirmation

Sometimes a simple "I love you" is all a person needs. Words hold a lot of value in this language. A compliment goes a long way with this person and negative comments won't be easily forgiven.

2. Quality time

This language holder values your time as well as theirs. Make this person your main focus and they're happy. Canceled plans and distractions could really hurt this person. Give them your undivided attention.

3. Gift seeker

No, this person is NOT a gold digger! They just like tangible gifts. A small meaningful present could mean the world to this person.

4. Acts of service

Look life is hard! This person just wants a helping hand. Show them you love them by making the bed in the morning, feeding their pet for them or picking up dinner after work. Actions speak way louder than words with this person.

5. Physical touch

This person is all about PDA! Physical affection isn't just for the bedroom. Feel free to hold their hand while you walk through the store. This person is a lover, not a fighter — so be careful how you touch them.

Now just because your partner favors a certain love language doesn't mean you ignore the rest of the languages. According to Chapman, even though we tend to favor one language more than the others we still enjoy traits of the others as well.

Dr. Chapman's theory isn't just for romantic relationships. His other books, "The Five Love Languages of Children," "The Five Love Languages for Singles," and "The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace" (co-authored with Dr. Paul White) show how the Languages can be applied to any type of relationship.

Learn more about all of Dr. Chapman's books here.

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