According to Urban Dictionary, the definition of a DUFF is the designated ugly fat friend of a friend group. I couldn't really figure out who the DUFF was amongst my group of friends, and then I realized that probably meant it was me, so here we are. Honestly, this definition kind of sucks. I know that I might not be as attractive as my friends, but I could really do without this term.
There are many different signs for you to be the DUFF of your friend group. For example, if you are the one giving advice to people, and not really asking for advice, you are most likely the DUFF. If you get asked by potential baes what/who your friend likes so they can impress them, it is safe to say you are the DUFF. Have you ever been an outright defender of your squad to anyone who tries to take you guys down? Then you could be a DUFF.
I get it, I'm the chubby kid who sits in the corner and tells jokes and everyone is okay with that. It gets a little old when you're like, "I'm going to die alone" and everyone is like, "No you aren't. You're funny." So I will probably have everyone laughing on the train ride up to heaven (or down to hell, probably) while I ride stag. Is that what you're trying to say?
Everyone always points out the highlights of being the DUFF, and no one really knows the dark side. Because we are usually sarcastic people with a guarded sensitive side, it's rare for people to know just what we are going through.
Last spring was one of the worst times of my life. I was fed up with not feeling as good as everyone else here. I started to starve myself, only eating a granola bar and an apple for the day, and finish my day off with half a salad. I would also work out twice a day to try and make myself "better looking." Then I realized that was a dumb idea.
Long story short, being a DUFF can f*ck you up. But, to be honest, I have a new found appreciation for being the designated ugly fat friend. I really don't give a sh*t what my friends look like. If they're ugly they're ugly, if they're hot they're hot. After this realization, I started to really cherish my friendships because I knew my friends really don't care what I look like.
Dear friends, it has been a complete honor serving as your DUFF. I've learned to embrace my inner DUFF, and who knows, maybe I won't be a DUFF anymore. I'll just be me.
