If you had told me when I was younger who my friends would be once I was in college, I would be very confused. The reason being that I didn’t know of these people when I was that young. If you told me who I’d be friends with after college right now, I would probably still be surprised, so many things change on a day to day basis that it’s almost impossible to predict where we’ll be in a few months, let alone years.
Right now my friends include people I was close to and then drifted away from at some point, people I met less than three months ago, people who were acquaintances for most of highschool, people I never thought I would see again and people I had never even considered being friends with.
That being said I have also lost touch with many people I had considered to be my closest friends, whether it be from distance or from arguments I’ve had. The image that used to make up who I thought my friends were has changed drastically since leaving for college and I am still expecting another upheaval later on.
The lesson to be learned from this is that we can never be too certain of what is to come in the future. I could say “prepare for everything” but where’s the fun in that? All that comes from planning for every single possibility is stress and frustration when all of your planning is for naught because you missed that one scenario when you were planning. I’m not saying that we just shouldn’t plan whatsoever or just not worry about everything in our future, but where is the fun in life if all you do is worry about it? Learning to go with the flow is an important thing to do if you want to be happy because, no matter how hard you try, life is going to happen so don’t try to get in its way.
With that, the hardest thing to control or try to manage in life is people. It’s remarkable, really, that everyone in the world has their own thought process and own life. When I was younger it was a struggle to imagine other people going out and living their own lives because my whole world is what I was around. As far as I was concerned, life started and stopped for other people when they were around me.
Accidents and circumstances are the best and worst things in our life. Because of the circumstances you can meet your lifelong best friend or never meet that person you’ve always wanted to. On accident you can make friends and enemies, you can find your passion and you can fall in love.
We don’t really know who we will end up with, but if we can learn to roll with the circumstances and all these accidents that put us where we are, then we can appreciate better the company we keep.
