I believe in the "click." The click can occur in both romantic and platonic relationships; it happens when someone just understands you.
I didn’t always believe in this feeling, and honestly, I didn’t really start to believe in it until I decided that I deserved better, and I was not going to settle. You either get me or you don’t. Being with someone shouldn’t feel so hard, it should feel effortless. Granted, people fight and argue all the time, that’s inevitable, but only to a certain extent. You have to go through hard times to get to where you are, so just be sure you know when those hard times don’t overplay the good ones.
This goes for friends as well; you should connect on a level where you get each other, in a comfortable and friendly way. They say that you are the five people you surround yourself with, and it takes a lot of time to figure those people out. First, you have to grow alone, and then you have to grow with the people around you in order to find the balance in-between. But always know that if you do not want to be surrounded by certain people, you have and always will have the choice to stay or go.
When I think of the click, it's a hard concept to verbalize, but if I had to explain it, I think that it would be based on the conversation. If you act like your true self around someone, and if they act like their true selves around you, it goes from there. Now, forever doesn’t necessarily exist, but I think it can exist when you find someone who you feel like you could experience that with. In life, people come and go to teach you different things about yourself, to rip you apart just so someone else can put you back together, and take it for what it is; learn from those different people.
I have an abundance of wonderful influences in my life that I can honestly say I look up to in this aspect. Some of my friends in particular are those people who were just meant for each other. You can tell by the way they look at each other, even having been together for years. My parents unfortunately aren’t an inspiration for this subject; they got divorced when I was 11, but just because that happened in my life doesn’t mean that someone else’s parents can’t be someone you look up to as well. I think the most inspiration I have is my grandparents. They were together for over 60 years... that’s the goal right there. My grandpa passed away two years ago, and I can’t even fathom what that would feel like, and I hope I never have to. I think family is a big influence for anyone, because no matter what or how they end up or even how the actual relationship is, it all started somewhere. You just have to look up to someone, so whether it be your friends and or family, just remember it all starts somewhere.
I think that believing in the click can work for some people and not for others, and that is perfectly fine, as long as you stay true to yourself, and always remain that way. You end up where you are supposed to be, with the people who are supposed to be around no matter.
