Your heart is probably battered. You probably feel alone. You probably don’t know how you will ever get through this. Fear no more. I too have recently been through a break up and I have the break up remedy. One word. Beyonce. Instead of spending your nights listen to your break up playlist on Spotify and singing she will be loved at the top of your lungs, download Tidal. Just do it. Or get a free trial. Go to her lemonade album and begin your recovery process.

Step 1: Revisit the circumstances surrounding your break up.

Song: Pray You Catch Me

There was probably some doubt in your mind about the state of your relationship. Maybe there were some messages that didn’t add up and conversations that seemed suspicious. Play this song and reflect on what you believe went wrong. And realize that a female’s intuition is usually spot on. Also realize that your significant other who put you through those instances of doubt was in the wrong.

Step 2: Think About What You Offer In Relationships.

Song: Hold Up

If you are like me then you probably put 110% into all relationships that you start. You make it your goal to make that person happy throughout the duration of your relationship. You are kind, caring, and supportive. You love them sometimes more than you love yourself. Though they don’t realize it they will soon come to see that no one will love them like you did.

Step 3: Issue a mental warning to future suitors.

Song: Don’t Hurt Yourself

You need to first realize that you are a catch. Anybody would be lucky to have you. You need to make sure that your significant others realize this as well. They need to treat you as a valuable piece of their life. Not just when they are pursuing you but through the duration of the relationship there needs to be effort at all times. They need to realize that you can bounce on to the next if you are not treated right.

Step 4: Stop Blaming Yourself.

Song: Sorry

Don’t be sorry for ending things. Don’t be sorry for taking yourself out of a negative situation. Don’t be sorry for putting your needs and wants on the forefront. Your happiness is important. Don’t let people guilt you into being sorry. #iaintsorry

Step 5: Focus on your success

Song: 6 Inch

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being focused on your success and goals. You should be chasing your dreams and not be distracted for too long by what’s happening in your life. Focus all your energy on working for your success.

Step 6: Don’t accept less than what you deserve.

Song: Daddy Lesson

While we were growing up most of our parents have told us not to settle for anything less than what we deserve. Don’t continue to waste tears on people who didn’t treat you the way you should be treated. Think about what your parents would advise you to do. They wouldn’t want you to be with someone who treats you less.

Step 7: Admit that you are human.

Song: Love Drought

On the contrary to popular belief it is perfectly acceptable to be in your feelings. There is no shame in that. Sometimes all we need is to have a really good crying session. Don’t keep it all bottled up. Just let it go. Let your body grieve.

Step 8: Don’t Forget The Memories

Song: Sandcastles

Sometimes we live in our own bubbles and assume that everything is going great and in some instances break ups shock us. When we get hurt by a person our memories of them get tainted. Good and Bad. But there is nothing wrong with remembering the good times. At some point that person made you happy. Just because they no longer are making you happy doesn’t mean that you should forget all the good times you’ve had together.

Step 9: Move On

Song: Forward

After a grieving period you NEED to move on. So take your needed months to get yourself used to being alone and then do not waste another tear on the situation.

Step 10: Remember what it’s like to be single.

Song: Freedom

You are single. It’s not as much of a death sentence as it seems. People think being single is the end of the world. It’s really not that serious. Many of us are young and don’t even know who we are ourselves. Being single allows you to really find yourself and enjoy your young life while solely being focused on yourself.

Step 11: Acknowledge your faults.

Song: All night

Maybe you’re like me and maybe you have trust issues, or you tend to close yourself off to some people. Maybe your ex told you a flaw about yourself that you chose to ignore. Determine what your faults are so that you can work on them not only for other future lovers but for yourself as well.

Step 12: Take on the world

Song : Formation

Once you’ve been through all these steps and found your love for yourself flaws, faults, and all you can take on the world. You have successfully made it through the hardest time and now it’s time for you to slay.