As an older brother we go through a lot of emotions from hate, love and happiness to sorrow and grief.However, in those time we are also supposed to the back bone for our siblings. We are the people that they look up to and desite certain things that happen, I think that a majority of brothers do a really good job. So here are my 10 things I felt after being an older brother for the past 16 years.

1. You're either the good or the bad guy

You will always have to be the good or bad guy, there is no in-between. There will never be a time where your sibling will love you or hate you. YOU will either need to set your foot down or let them take control. However, if you are the bad guy you will always get the glare from your siblings or if you’re the good guy they will always love you.

2. Saying NO

IF you have a younger sibling, especially someone who just learned out to talk and formulate sentences you will realize that the word No always leads to the sentence, “but why”. This sentence will always be the reason that I as an older brother get aggravated. My response has never changed, “because I said so” trying to get someone who is 5 years old to understand that there are limits and he or she can’t cross them is the most difficult thing imaginable.

3. Saying Yes

A child’s dream is to hear that you have said yes to something that he or she would like to do but this usually happens at a slim chance. Having a younger sibling you always will realize that if they don’t get what they want from mom or dad they will come directly to the next person in charge. After saying yes I usually end up getting yelled at by my parents for allowing them to do something they were directly told not to do.

4. Learning when to be the good cop or bad cop

We build our lives through experience and with that being said we have a little more experience compared to our younger siblings. Our reasons for saying yes or no are going to base on what we have experienced. On the other hand, we always don’t know what to say so we go to our parents for what to do. We still are not adults yet so we still make mistakes but we try helping our younger siblings so they do not make the mistakes I’ve made.

5. The heart to hearts

We all have those bad days and there may be days that we don’t want to talk to anyone but we will always have our younger siblings. But there is always times where the only people who you are going to tolerate are your younger siblings. They are the people who are always there for you when there is no one there. These siblings are the ones that will always be there when we need someone the most. I can’t even explain how much I love my little brother for being there for me when I needed someone the most. He would always sit in the back seat in his car seat listening to my day.

6. Always being the sibling chauffeur

One of the hardest things is that I always have to drive no matter where we go. Regardless of weather and time I will always be the one to drive them to where they need to go. Regardless of location I will always be the person who drives my sister or brother to make sure that they are okay where they are going.

7. Smiles, Crying and laughing

We as a family have gone through a lot but as a family we are always united. As brothers and sisters we are each other’s backbones. We go to each to her with the worst and the best of times. There are times that we will hate each other and times that we can’t be without each other. We have gone through the sorrows, happy times, and the pain but throughout every emotion we have not left each other’s side. We has a family have stayed united. As family you don’t know what to except and as siblings everyday can be a challenge but we work through it.

8. Feeling the need to protect your younger siblings

We are always protective over the people we love. It takes a lot to get me angry but the one thing that will always get me angry is when one of my siblings are hurt. Having two sisters I am very protective over them and care a lot about them, especially when there are guys in the situation. I am the typical older brother who would go to very intense conversation or I would be aggressive because if you hurt them I’d hurt you.

9. Getting Annoyed

There are times where we fight and there are times that we say things we don’t mean. However, at these moments we have realized that this is normal and as siblings we will fight and we will get annoyed with each other.

10. Saying Good Bye

In a couple weeks we will be apart again this year but this time another one of us will be going to college. Another one of us is going to be starting our lives. Another one of us will be in the world experiencing knew things. There will be times where we still call each other and talk to each other but as siblings regardless of distance we will always be with each other.