Getting your heart broken is something that everyone will go through at least once in their lifetime. From experience, this can take a huge toll on not only your daily life but also how you perceive others. Whether you are good with breakups or you can move on right away, it will take some time.
These are some ways to finally be able to love yourself first before you love anyone else.
1. Delete Old Memories.
If you have any pictures on your phone, you need to delete them. When you're home alone at night sitting on your phone, do you really want to be reminiscing on what you don't have anymore? No. Girl, delete all the memories and start to make new ones.
2. Make A Killer Playlist.
Get ready to get in your car, turn the volume all the way up, and jam to some of your favorite pump up songs. One thing to help you get over an ex is screaming those confident, revenge songs at the top of your lungs, and making a girl boss playlist will only make you more excited for the future.
3. Change Your Look.
What better way to rub it in your ex's face than to look your best. Not only will this show the world that you are not phased by the breakup but it will also give yourself a boost of confidence to get up and move on.
4. Keep Your Distance.
If you keep your ex in your life, there will be no way you will make it out fast. Sure there will be reminders every once in a while but don't try to force friendship or reach out until some time has passed.
5. Get Out And Do Things.
The best way to get over someone is keeping yourself busy. When you're occupied and having fun, there is no time to waste on your ex. This is also a great way to be able to gain new opportunities, make some connections, and change yourself for the better.
6. Learn How To Productively Talk About It.
If you're focusing on the "what ifs" and "how comes" continuously, good luck with getting over him. Breakups are difficult but if you can learn how to talk about it in a productive way, you won't be hung up on why you two didn't make it.
7. Rely On Your Girls.
Trust me, honey. Your girls will always be there. Boys will not. No matter what, you know that your true friends will stick by your side to help you through the whole breakup process. Besides who doesn't love a girls night out.
8. Know That It Is OK To Cry.
Us girls are quite emotional and trying to bottle it all up will do you no good. It's OK to let it out. You're going to want the romcom, eat ice cream, ball your eyes out night, trust me. Hiding your emotions are just going to dig yourself deeper into the negative emotions. Let it all out, move on, and don't go back.
9. Treat Yourself.
Remember that new pair of shoes you've been wanting? Now is the time to buy them. Doing a little retail therapy will not only keep you busy, but it will also allow you to get a new wardrobe to take on the world as your newly single self.
10. Don't Beg For Him Back, Beg To Get Yourself Back.
Trying to get back together right away, if that is even an option, will only change the power in the relationship. Instead of begging for your ex back, get yourself back. A relationship can change oneself immensely, and getting your old self back who doesn't rely on a man for happiness is the best way to move on.
No matter what, breakups suck. But get yourself out there and start to love yourself and I guarantee your ex will never cross your mind. As much as it sucks, it will take time to recover, but if you follow some of these tips, I promise that you will be living your best single life in no time.
