This Valentine's Day, it's all about the friend crush. It may sound slightly romantic, but don't let this term fool you. Unlike most things advertised this time of year, the friend crush isn't something sexual. I'm talking about the hardcore obsession you get when someone—guy or girl—is just too funny/interesting/charismatic/cool for you to not have them in your life.
I have been through this many times and only just recently coined a term for it. With the recent change of classes this semester and introduction to new chapters after Greek life recruitment, the friend crushes are real. They are rampant. But they are certainly nothing new.
1. The introduction.
The first interaction with your friend crush really sets up the whole thing. You weren't expecting them, but suddenly they just made the best first impression you've ever seen. Then you find out that they share your love of "The Office" or your hometown or guacamole, and you know it's real. At this point, whether you realize it or not, this person is your new mission.
2. Shameless social media stalking.
No one will admit this, but a true friend crush always includes a hefty amount of online creeping. Typically this reaffirms your friend crush. They probably posted an absurdly cute picture of their dog or went to the same vacation spot you've gone to for years. Ugh. So much perfection. Even if it was 97 weeks ago.
3. Going out together.
This is a key moment in the friend crush. Nothing brings people together faster than jamming to music and showing off your ridiculous dance moves. You really get to see each other in your element. Ideally you belt out "Wannabe" by the Spice Girls somewhere in there.
4. The first inside joke.
Something caught on about that night, whether it was the rude bartender to make fun of or your friend imitating you dropping an entire pizza on the way home. You have an inside joke, and you may not even remember where it started, but it's all good. Progress.
5. Ugly Snapchats.
If you've reached this stage, it's really the home stretch. Your friend crush now trusts you enough to send you Snapchat selfies that are so distorted and so unfortunate that you may not even want to screenshot them. The more chins, the better the relationship. A true friend crush milestone.
6. Admittance.
Of course the whole thing comes full circle when you can tell the new friend how much you wanted to be their sidekick all along. Looking back, it's funny to both of you because you can't imagine not knowing each other.
