1. The power of love
We all have moments in which we feel lost. Moments in which just when we think we hit rock bottom, it decides to hit back. Moments in which the pain we feel becomes too overwhelming and it takes over. We become someone completely different we look in the mirror and no longer recognize the person looking back at us. It is in these moments that we discover the true meaning and power of love. It is the people who love us that can bring us back to the surface. They can lessen the pain. They can stand besides us in front of that mirror and even if we still don't recognize ourselves we recognize them and we know we are not alone. Three simple words strung together to make the most powerful sentence. I. Love. You.
2. There is nothing like grief.
Our lives change on a daily basis. Every choice we make, everything that happens to us sets us on the path that will get us to where we will eventually end up. A quote from one of my favorite episodes of Buffy sums this up pretty well “there's moments in your life that make you, that set the course of who you're gonna be. Sometimes they're little, subtle moments. Sometimes ... they're not." When we lose someone close to us everything around us, everything within us changes. We are no longer the person we used to be before the death of a loved one and we will never be that person again at least not completely. Losing someone we love lights a fire within us. It sets every fiber of our being on fire, and like the victims of a house fire our best response is to flee, run away get as far away as possible. So that's what we do. We run and close the door leaving that fire to burn, hoping that it will eventually burn out. The thing is that after a while you realize that you closed that door while you were still in the room and the fire is consuming you. The only way to make it out alive is to put the fire out yourself. The only way to get over grief is to go through it. “Bottom line is, even if you see them coming, you're not ready for the big moments. No one asks for their life to change, not really. But it does. So, what are we, helpless? Puppets? Nah. The big moments are gonna come, you can't help that. It's what you do afterwards that counts. That's when you find out who you are.”
3. You always have you.
We humans often times like to directly connect our worth to other people. We always think about how many friends we have, who would miss us if we were gone. We do things to impress others, to make sure they like us. Our biggest fear is being alone but we are never alone. We always have ourselves. I know that sounds like the definition of loneliness but its not. True loneliness is when we aren't OK with being with ourselves. You can be surrounded by people and feel completely alone. The most important thing is taking care of you. If there is no one there for you be there for yourself.I recently read something that fits this perfectly and that I connected with "And if nobody got me, I got me."
