How To Answer Those Awkward Thanksgiving Dinner Questions

7 Things You'll Get Asked At Thanksgiving And How To Answer Like A Pro

We all know it's coming: the questions our family members ask that we dread hearing.


In my family, the questions start from the moment I walk in the door for break till I leave the following week, so I'm pretty experienced in avoiding/dodging/creatively answering whatever they decide to throw at me. Here are some of my family's, and maybe your family's, favorite questions to ask their blossoming college student.

1. "So, do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?"


While dating is an important part of growing up, maybe this Thanksgiving you're riding solo, and there's nothing wrong with that! To counteract this one, say something along the lines of, "Not right now, I'm really trying to focus on school and myself right now so that I can devote my time to someone later on." This may lead to other questions, but it's a good way to shift the topic back to yourself.

2. "Do you know what you want to do when you graduate?"


Let's be honest, really no one knows what they're going to do when they graduate until they start looking for jobs and get hired. So unless you already have been hired — which if you have, congrats — you probably aren't sure yet what you're going to be doing.

Say, "I've applied a couple places and I'm in the process of finding a job, but I haven't tied anything down yet." That way they know you're actively looking, but you won't get bombarded with questions about jobs and school.

3. "Did you enjoy your classes this semester?"


Instead of raging about the classes you didn't like or talking about school in a negative way, think about this: your parents are probably paying a good amount of money for you to go there, and they don't want you to be unhappy. Unless you genuinely had a HORRIBLE semester, think about rephrasing it like this, "Most of my classes I enjoyed, there were one or two that weren't the best, but for the most part I learned a lot."

4. "What do you do on the weekends? Do you go out a lot?"


This is a trap... do NOT honestly answer this question. I always answer this with, "A lot of weekends I hang out with my friends or catch up on my sleep. I go out probably a couple times a month but not every weekend." Even if you go out EVERY DAY, do NOT tell your family this!

5. "Did you vote in the election?"


THIS IS ALSO A TRAP! DO NOT BRING UP POLITICS! Someone will get offended, it will start a fight, or it'll be a silent battle... just don't do it. For the love of God, don't do it. Answer this one with, "Yep, I [went to the polling place or sent in an absentee ballot, whatever you did] already! Got it covered!" Short, sweet and to the point. Leave it there. Let it be.

6. "Are you still going to the gym all the time?"


Whether you go every day or once a week, your parents and family care about your health. Say something along the lines of, "I go whenever I get time! It depends on the week, but I try to go as much as I can." That way if "as much as you can" is once a day or once a week, it's not a lie.

7. "What do you want for Christmas?"


This is always a hard one... I need money, books, clothes, money... I always answer this one with, "Oh, I don't need a lot, honestly just school stuff would be nice." I can pretty much classify anything as "school stuff," so this gets you out of explaining later why you need another pair of Adidas tennis shoes or a new phone.

What else does your family ask you when you go home? Comment below!

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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Do Not Be Ungrateful This Thanksgiving, Here Are 33 Reasons Why You Should Be Thankful

We do not spend enough time being thankful, and that is unfair


Thanksgiving is a beautiful, unique and American holiday. Thanksgiving is about food, about family, but especially is about being thankful. I know, we spend a lot of our time complaining about several things, our job, our professor, our boss, our partner, our family, ourselves, our politicians, our favorite artist, our car and much more.

We do not spend enough time being thankful, and that is unfair. We have many reasons to say thanks; I give you thirty-three. Here are my reasons to be thankful (and I think they are yours too):

1. Our family. Even if you don’t like them, they made you like you are.

2. To be alive. You may not like your life, but it is an opportunity.

3. To live in the US. Have you seen all the people in the world who want to live here? The US is a country full of opportunities.

4. Our jobs. I don’t like mine either, but it pays my bill, and it reminds me I can do something better.

5. Our schools/colleges/universities. We are so lucky because we have the chance to study.

6. To vote. It took thousands of years to get the right to vote and chose our representatives, governors, presidents, senator and others (if you’re a woman or part of a minority you must be more thankful).

7. For Facebook. The best way to know our friends and relatives’ lives

8. For our favorite TV shows. We are living in the golden age of TV; we are so lucky (and we have TV Reboots & Revivals).

9. We can dream. We can change our lives; we can choose our destiny. Half of the people in the world do not have that chance.

10. For love. It does not matter if you have a partner or you don’t; enjoy the fact you have your stories and you will have more.

11. For babies, puppies, cats and dogs. What would we do with all those hours watching their videos on Youtube?

12. Free sexuality. We are living in the time where you can be anything you want, and you can love anybody you want. Just think, fifty years ago, we were prisoners of society.

13. “Game of Thrones” is back in April 2019. We have been waiting too long.

14. For books. Reading makes us better people.

15. For Instagram. Food never was more important than now. IG is the best way to know how our celebrities’ lives are.

16. For our friends. I cannot imagine my life without my friends; they are my rock and the best support in the worse moments.

17. For Netflix. How did we spend our Sundays before?

18. We are the last generation who can handle climate change and save the world.

19. For Christmas. 

20. For your kids. I am talking about your own, your nephews, nieces, siblings, godchildren, step kids, even your neighbors.

21. For alcohol and all the good memories (and really bad decisions), it made us have.

22. Freedom of the press. Today more than any other time we must be thankful about freedom of the press (and we must protect it).

23. For our health. Even if you are not completely healthy, you are in the era where medicine is available and improving every second.

24. For #Metoo movement. Finally, we can share our experiences and stop them for the next generations.

25. For traveling. You can go to Australia, Madagascar, France or Chile if you want. There are no limits.

26. For freedom.

27. For second chances. We all need them in all the moments of our lives.

28. For food. Because it makes our lives better and delicious.

29. For memes. Now each picture has a huge potential to be famous.

30. For God or the Gods. Be thankful because you have somebody who listens to your prays.

31. For the Future. Because we can make it.

32. For the past. Because it is our history.

33. For the present. We are living the best of all the times. Today, most of the social movements have had important advances. It is easier to be a woman, a minority, a refugee, an immigrant or have a disability. 

Yes, probably I am missing some important motives to be thankful which means there are dozens of more reasons. By the way, Happy Thanksgiving!

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