A Thank You To Everyone Who Took Care Of Me During The Worst Time of My Life

A Thank You To Everyone Who Took Care Of Me During The Worst Time Of My Life

I went through one of the hardest things, but I am so thankful that I don't have to go through it alone anymore.

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When my abusive relationship ended, I felt so lost and confused at that point in my life. I remember feeling so destroyed and feeling like everything I had built myself up to be before that relationship started had been shattered. I was a shell of what I was and I knew in my heart that my life had been forever changed. It was so easy for me to hide my sorrow and allow myself to be alone in the world, but every person who was there for me, every one of you, has shown me by being there for me that company is always positive and it's been making my recovery easier than I would have originally thought.

I remember I had a conversation with my abuser not too long before I finally came out about what he had done to me where he admitted to me that he doesn't see the wrong in his actions, small or large actions. This made me think long and hard about why I was "protecting" him and why I didn't leave when he first laid his hands on my throat. I made excuses to myself thinking that maybe he didn't realize what he was really doing to me? Maybe it was something I did wrong? Maybe I deserved it?

I would always place the blame on myself for not being good enough instead of realizing that what he did to me was wrong and not my fault, end of story. If you're going to put your hands on someone in any type of way, communication is key, asking your partner if you can touch them is healthy, this is not what he did to me. This was so hard to talk about when it was happening and even writing this is taking more courage for me than I intended.

I remember the morning I first came out and told someone that I had been choked in that relationship. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do, telling someone I love and value that someone else mistreated me, and I know it was the hardest thing he had to hear. I later went on to tell my parents, my therapist, and a few other close friends and every single one of them has constantly stayed by my side and helped guide me in my recovery every step of the way. To any of you who have been there who are reading this now, I cannot thank you enough.

Without your love and support, I don't think I would have ever come out about my struggles. I have finally gotten to the point where I can forgive him for hurting me so we can both move on in our lives without holding grudges, I want to love instead of hate, but I know I will never be able to forget what happened to me. I thank all of you for getting to me this point where I can begin to move on towards a happier and healthier life for myself and I can't even begin to thank you all enough for loving me at my worst. I have never experienced pain quite like this before and it was one of the hardest things I had to go through, but I am so thankful that I don't have to go through it alone anymore. Thank you. I love you.

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21 Things You Say To Your Roommate If You Two Are Practically A Married Couple

Until I made this list, I didn't realize how absurdly close my roommate and I were. #sorrynotsorry
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Let's be real: you and your roommate have said these things at least one to each other.

1. "Can you turn the light off?"

2. "We probably shouldn't go out for dinner again...right?"

*Complains about not having money* *Spends $8 on Chipotle three times a week*

3. "I always pick where we go"

This is a fight you have with your roommate almost every day when you're roommate is as indecisive as mine.

4. "Do you have my keys?"

5. "Can you pick me up?"

6. "Is it hot in here?"

7. "Does this outfit look stupid?"

The answer is usually yes. No offense.

8. "Can you throw this out for me?"

9. "Can we get ice cream?"

10. "I need coffee."

This text is usually sent when you know your roomie is out running errands... errands you know are near a Starbucks.

11. "Can you tell me what happened?"

12. "Are you asleep?"

There have been times where I couldn't tell if you were asleep or dead... and I had to say this out loud to check if you were alive.

13. "Check your DM's."

*Cracks up in the middle of nowhere* *Catches a weird stare from your roomie across the room*

14. "Can you plug this in for me?"

15. "Can you pick a movie?"

Another instance where "I always pick" happens.

16. "Look at this girl's Instagram."

*Chucks phone across the room at roommate*

17. "Can you call me?"

18. "Can we meet up?"

19. "Can you help me find my phone?"

*Tries to leave the house to do something* *Loses phone* Every. Time.

20. "What should we do tonight?"

*Tries to get ready to do something fun* *Ends up staying in for another girls' night*

21. "Why isn't everyone as great as us?"

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To My Long-Distance Best Friend, We Might Be 7,811 Miles Apart, But Our Friendship Only Gets Stronger

It breaks my heart that I cannot be around for your birthdays or to celebrate your achievements. But I'm so proud of every milestone you achieve. I am so proud of all your accomplishments and the person you are becoming.

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To my best friend,

It has been 270 days since I last met you and 206 more days until I meet you again. People say that time flies by quickly, but these have been the most difficult days that seemed to drag on forever. Five years ago when you were sitting next to me on the first day of our sociology class, I had no idea we would end up being best friends. From sharing my mother's parathas during lunch breaks to the countless sleepovers, I will never forget all the memories we created throughout high school.

I vividly remember the day I told you I would be studying abroad. You were so happy and proud of me for pursuing my dreams but also upset that we wouldn't be seeing each other every now and then. I was worried if our friendship would even last. But we have spent almost two years away from each other and our friendship only seems to get stronger.

I'm so grateful to technology for allowing us to be in touch all the time. My day doesn't feel complete if I do not receive a text from you. I know we do not video call often because of how busy our schedules are (another reason being time zones suck and I cannot do the math), but always know that I am there for you. It breaks my heart that I cannot be around for your birthdays or to celebrate your achievements. But I'm so proud of every milestone you achieve. I am so proud of all your accomplishments and the person you are becoming.

We have both had some terrible friendship experiences in our past before we met each other that have completely broken our faith in friendships. But know that you can always count on me and that I will never leave your side. Know that I will always set an alarm early in the morning just to video call you. Know that I will always be there for you (even if I'm not physically present around you). Know that you will always be the first person I share everything with.

I cannot thank you enough for everything you have done for me. Thank you for encouraging me to make new friends at college. Thank you for always being there during my failures and reminding me that it's not the end of the world and that more opportunities will come my way. Thank you for being there during my successes and being my number one cheerleader. Thank you for always reminding me to love myself. You not only have a special place in my heart but also have a special place in my family. My mother and sister are not only glad that I have a best friend like you but also adore you so much. It is impossible to imagine a life without you.

I cannot wait for more butter chicken sleepover dates in December!

Lots of love,

Your best friend.

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