A Thank You Letter To My Ex-Boyfriend

A Thank You Letter To My Ex-Boyfriend

Because I never would have discovered true happiness if you hadn't left me.

Dear Ex-Boyfriend,

It has been almost a year since the last time we talked. I don’t know what you’ve been up to, but I hope you’re doing okay. I have deleted your number and we have disconnected on social media, so I really have no way of checking up on you. If you’re wondering how I’m doing since you left, I am doing great. I am having the time of my life, and I am finding things that make me happier than ever before. I am focusing on what’s important: myself.

Our relationship isn’t something I regret. In fact, it taught me so many lessons. The times we shared together were incredible and you made me so happy, at least for a little while.

But I just wanted to thank you for the part you played in my life to get me to where I am today.

Thank you for making me so happy because I’ve realized I can be even happier.

You tried to do absolutely anything and everything to make me happy. You sent me cute texts, you cheered me up when I was sad, you flew up and down the east coast to see me, you acted like a 5 year old in a candy shop with me, and you loved me. While all these things made me happy, it was only temporary happiness. I have now realized that I can be constantly happy by surrounding myself with people and things that make me happy. I no longer have to rely on you for my happiness.

Thank you for loving me for me.

Thank you for truly loving me for me. I didn’t have to be anyone else when I was with you, and you liked me just the way I was. That made me believe that it is possible for someone to fall in love with me and I know it is capable of happening again.

Thank you for the heartbreak, because it made me a stronger person as a result.

I will admit, it was a tough idea to process, the idea of not having you in my life. But, I have not only gotten over it, but I have grown into a better person because of it. I no longer let people manipulate me and walk all over me. I am much stronger than I was before and I thank you for that.

Thank you for leaving me for someone else because it made me realize how much better I can do.

I have realized that “forever” doesn’t always mean forever, and when it finally does, the person who says it won’t leave me for someone else. I will never tolerate lying and sneaking around and I want to thank you for making it so obvious to find out. I can do so much better and I can’t wait to find out how happy the right person is going to make me.

Thank you for becoming the monster that you did, because if you hadn’t, I probably never would have discovered the toxicity of the relationship I was in.

All of your harsh words and childish acts toward the end of our relationship made me discover the scary person you could be. I would never want to be with someone like that. Looking back now, the relationship was never healthy—not letting me hang out with my friends, picking you over my family, causing drifts in my friendships. I am relieved I was able to get out of it when I could.

Thank you for making me realize there are more important things in life.

After you left, I put all of my energy into my friends, my family, and my school. My friends and family make me happier than you ever could and I am beyond obsessed with my school. I am on the road to becoming successful and I know I have a future ahead of me. There are much more important things than trying to save a relationship that cannot be saved.

I put my all into my relationships and I did everything I could to make you stay. But, everything happens for a reason, and there was definitely a reason our relationship came to an end.

I really do hope you can find someone who makes you happy one day. Good luck with everything.

Love Always,

Your Very Thankful Ex-Girlfriend

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"A grandmother is a remarkable woman. She's a wonderful combination of warmth and kindness, laughter and love. She overlooks our faults, encourages our dreams, and praises our every success."- Author Unknown

They Are Your Biggest Fans:

Maybe even beating out your parents for that title...grandmas are truly your number one fans. From tennis matches, to softball and volleyball games, to the countless dance recitals and competitions, it always made my heart smile to look out from the stage or the court and see my grandma sitting there. She didn't have to be there sitting on uncomfortable bleachers, she wanted to be, and it always meant the world to me; even if I didn't express it at the time.

They Are The Greatest Porch Swing Companions:

One of my favorite and greatest memories of growing up is sitting on the front porch swing with my grandma. From the time when my feet didn't quite touch the ground sitting in the swing and hers did, to my feet touching the ground and her legs getting just a little bit shorter. All of the years in between provided some of the best advice, and were some of the many moments I wish that I could have recorded. There were less hours on the swing as I got older and busier, but I always know exactly where to go if I ever need to. Moving away for college, I realize just how much I miss being eight or nine sitting on the front porch swinging and talking for hours.

The Wisdom:

Only one of the many many things they have to offer you. They are full of so many stories, life lessons, and possible answers to your problems. You learn to appreciate the wisdom more and more as you get older. You realize that just as you are getting older, they are too. I recently bought a journal called My Grandma In Her Own Words. Inside the pages are questions to ask your grandma such as, "What is your earliest childhood memory?" I can't wait to spend the whole summer filling it.

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I say this at least twice a week...she is the cutest human being alive. Their style, to the fabulous music they listen to, to everything in between. My grandma walked at least 16 miles in Washington D.C. in loafers and the cutest vest/scarf combo I've ever seen... that woman, let me tell ya. On a serious note, whenever I'm told I look a little bit like my grandma, I LOVE it. I take pride in the fact that someone sees a little bit of her in me, because she is gorgeous.

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Quite simply, they are one of the most influential women in your life. From being little, to being a newly minted adult, I still call my grandma almost everyday; sometimes just to hear her voice. They are some of the greatest human beings you will ever know. They make you a better person, all while showing you an unconditional love that only they can.

All the love in the world for you, sweet woman.

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An Open Letter To My "Team"

A week I'll never forget.

Last week, I had the amazing opportunity of going on a Service and Justice Experience spring break trip to Marion County, South Carolina. Since returning, I've been trying to pinpoint what I've learned, trying to find a particular moment or teaching that resonated with me, but I've found that I can't. There are no words to describe all that happened last week, so instead I've chosen to write this article as an ode to all that I encountered and felt in my seven days in Marion County.

It's been less than a week since we journeyed back to campus and I'm missing Marion already.

Whenever I see one of the people I traveled with around campus, I can't help but light up and smile, and I think it's because something magical happened last week. It had to be the combination of the beautiful community we were exposed to in Marion, the service with Habitat for Humanity, we were able to do, and of course, the people we served alongside with.

When people ask me how my trip was, the first word that comes to mind is "fun", but I don't think that word really does the trip, or everyone there, any justice.

Yes, the trip was fun, but it was also thought provoking, full of fits of laughter and moments of determination and hard work, and so much more.

Team, thank you to every single one of you for making the trip what it was. In one of the notecards that someone wrote for me, they commented on how the trip would not have been the same without me being there. As cliché as it sounds, I believe this to be true- we all come from different backgrounds with our own idiosyncrasies and character traits.

I truly feel that if even one person had been missing, the group dynamic, and thus experience as a whole, would have shifted.

I think what really stood out to me was the amount of love that surrounded all of us in everything we did. When Morgan asked us during reflection one night, Where did you see love today? I found myself with countless examples, from the patience of master nailers with us newbies, to the countless times a friend braided my hair for me, to a simple check in of "how are you doing" at any given moment.

Love and the sense of community were at the forefront of everything we did last week, especially when working on the house or connecting with the people in Marion.

Thank you all for helping solidify my belief that every action in life can be traced back to love.

I felt the love everywhere we went and through everything we did. However, what I found even more beautiful was how, when taking a step back, I was able to observe the love around me. As I spoke about during reflection one night, there was a moment where I was lying on the grass, separate from everyone else, watching you all play Frisbee.

While this situation may sounds trivial and mundane, I think the impact this moment had on me speaks to the gratitude this trip formed in me for the little moments.

It was the way that you all were interacting with each other. Closing my eyes, I heard nothing but laughter and cheering and words of encouragement. All you were doing was throwing around a Frisbee, yet I could find so much of God's love in that moment.

You all have a special place in my heart, and I only hope we continue to grow as a team.

Here's to morning devotionals, Max's daily lessons and coordinated Coke commercials. Here's to 6:15 wake up songs (Final Countdown anyone?), 12 am What Do You Meme? games (because pizza, of course) and the sardine round that took half a century. Here's to surprise birthday cake(s), handprints on walls, walls being painted and walls being raised. Most of all, here's to ridiculous stories, laughter, moments of reflection, vulnerability, and tears, and everything in between.

Thank you all for bringing your whole self to this trip, for sharing, and as a result, for teaching me a great deal about what it means to live in community and to build not only a home, but a second family.

Here's to you, here's to us, team.

Good deal,


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