The forbidden move. No one wants to be the first one to text anymore. You might as well call yourself a social leper. Texting people first is, for no reason, considered "desperate" or "annoying." But honestly, it's neither of those and there's no reason not to do it.

As stupid as it sounds, texting your crush or even friends first can be nerve wracking because you don't know if they'll respond, and you make up this scenario in your head that as soon as they read your text they're going to laugh and have this instantaneous judgement about you that you're too desperate and you need to take a chill pill.

Well, stop. Stop thinking that just because you reach out to someone first, you are irritating. It's irritating to think that you're stressing this much over a text.

Texting someone first, calling them first, or whatever, it's not obnoxious. In fact, I find it flattering and it makes me feel good that someone actually wants to talk to me. Reaching out first is like a huge compliment and if that person can't appreciate it, they don't deserve your texts. Period.

Saying "hey" first shows confidence and that you appreciate their time and thoughts enough to want to have a conversation with that person. I'd say that's more attractive than playing "hard to get."

So this is me urging you. This is me giving you the confidence to put yourself out there, embrace your kindness, and text that person first. Do it.

Why wouldn't you?