"The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how they love them while they're alive." -Optimus Prime
Oftentimes opportunities are missed to express love and affection for those around us, whether that means to a romantic partner, family member, or friend. It doesn't necessarily have to be romantic love; in fact, some of the richest experiences of our lives involve companionate love. That could mean that time you sobbed into a friend's arms and felt their love as they put their arms around you--or a spontaneous deep talk at a coffee shop. Or it could very much be romantic love, the felt silences in between saying something profound to one another, the whispers of affection in the midst of cuddles.
I used to hold back when it came to the words 'I love you,' then it hit me that if I felt it, I should say it. So many opportunities to become closer and to truly express myself were lost in my hesitation to speak 'I love you.' An important lesson I learned from my current boyfriend is to be more open with those words--because of past relationships, I felt like I had to hold back, to stay grounded in non-expression. Because of him, however, I am able to say what I feel.
Hopefully, I am able to pass on this lesson with the following reasons to say, right now, 'I love you.' Doesn't matter who you choose to say it to in particular, as long as you feel it and then let them feel your love in return. There's nothing more important to our emotional lives than knowing we love and are loved back--by telling someone you love them, you are filling yourself with that love and also passing it on to them. Please take this to heart and say it at least once today--if you're feeling especially generous, perhaps make this a more regular practice. It can be uncomfortable if you're not used to saying 'I love you,' but I promise that it will become less uncomfortable and almost reflexive over time.