Tell Me I Can't And I'll Show You I Can

Tell Me I Can't And I'll Show You I Can

Fuel my fire a little more.

"She's got a ways to go if she is intending to make a career out of writing. Sorry ..."

Ever since I read this sentence about a piece of my writing, it has stuck with me completely. I pride myself on being a great writer and it has always been one of my biggest passions and outlets, so absorbing this hateful critique was more than painful. Of course I know I am not the best I can be and have a long way to go. I am twenty years old with a life time ahead of me, however I can make a career out of anything I want to, whether said person thinks I can or not, and I will work twice has hard to get there just to prove this person wrong.

That's the thing. Whether you're the best at something, the worst at something, or happily floating in the middle, there are always going to be people trying to bring you down. There are always going to be people who feel the need to give their two-cents, whether they have knowledge behind their two-cents or not. There are always going to be people who want to see you fail and will enjoy watching it happen along the way.

These type of people hurt and their words do too, but letting them get to you only gives them all the power. If you take their words and use them to fuel your fire rather than burn the bridges to your dreams, you will cause them to fail. You will cause them to stagger backwards, breathless, in shock of the kick ass person you are and the kick ass job you did with whatever they were so heavily doubting.

You are never going to have the support and approval of every one on this earth, it just isn't humanly possible. Support is a beautiful thing, but disproval and doubt are gifts. They should be taken with a shining grin and wide eyes like you just won the lottery. Open that glittery box of personal jabs, feel them one by one, and then set out to get the job done.

Set out to be the best you can be and whatever you want. Be the best writer, be the best singer, be the best hotdog eater, be the best, no matter what the cost. You may not be the best in the world, but you will be the best in your eyes and that's what truly matters.

We weren't placed on this earth to please others. We were placed here to find our place and to own the crap out of it when we get there, strutting around like some hot model on a runway in NYC. When you stop acting like a sissy and work that runway, you will be well on your way to being the best.

That is exactly what I decided to do. I decided to stop being a sissy and to work my runway of a life. I decided that any doubt, disproval, hate or jab that got in my way was only going to serve as fuel to bettering my strengths and strengthening my weaknesses. So to return to the beginning of this, you, reading this, may not like what I have written, and that's okay. Your life will go on and so will mine. Fuel my fire. Let your fire be fueled.

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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