With there being so many dating apps and sites out there, it can be easy to find someone who has interest in you. We no longer have to go up to the person face to face and ask them what they find interesting about you, we simply swipe right and then ask, 'So, why'd you swipe right on me?"
I'll admit, I've had one of these dating apps and they're pointless. These apps give us false emotions from people who are in a phone. I do think there are a few ups to these dating apps such as forming friendships with the same gender because of the new features that the apps have made available, but I also see that the cons greatly outweigh the pros.
The real point I'm getting to here is this: Why do we fall so hard for someone that's on a phone screen, but we can't take a minute to stop and look around at the people that are literally in front of our eyes?
1. Being wanted.
It's simply that. Some of us want to feel that someone likes us or is giving us attention. I have fallen victim to this mindset in a hard way, Being wanted isn't all THAT, but we do this because of our pasts and who we are as people. Luckily, I've grown from this mindset a bit and no longer find my worth in someone. This concept is a hard-to-swallow pill for some people. It was hard for me to swallow also, I get it. You want to feel loved!!! Who doesn't want to feel loved? It's the type of love you're feeling and if it's actual Love the person is giving you, is what matters.
2. Conversation.
Hey, I'll be the first to admit that I do stay stuck in my phone ALOT. But, I have been trying to focus on schoolwork and other things instead of being on my phone lately; I no longer respond to that Snapchat immediately, I wait it out because if it was truly important they would call me. Phones nowadays have made my generation numb to how to actually converse. We no longer can talk to someone older than us without feeling awkward and when we talk to someone our own age it's about gossip. We no longer know how to talk about feelings or be there for each other and not feel awkward.
3. Dating.
On the same subject of phones and conversation, we can apply it to dating. We no longer communicate and actually sit down to dinner with the person whom we have interest in. We get out our phones when the food comes and instantly snap an 'Insta-worthy" photo of our meal. Before the menu gets to the table, we are on our phone's scrolling through our instagram feeds because we are bored. How about we actually sit and talk to the person that's in front of us instead of trying glueing our phones to our faces?
With this being said next time you go on a date or consider a dating app, consider taking your time and doing something productive or actually getting to know the person who's in front of you.
