One of the most exhilarating parts of dating is the chase itself. Let's be real; it's thrilling to get the attention of that one person and try to get them to fall for you. I am sure it is that excitement that makes dating apps like Bumble and Tinder addicting. When you match with someone, that notification creates a sense of excitement and wonder about where something can go or what might happen.

Here's the problem, it seems that the moment we seem to have that person's attention, the fun is over and your feelings are somehow not as strong as they used to be. They disappear, or you frankly lose interests.

I was recently talking to a friend of mine who said that he had noticed it both on his and or the other side. The moment he "catches feelings" and lets those feelings known, the girl loses interest. The same thing happens on his end. When a girl falls for him, somehow he doesn't want to continue the relationship and commit to this woman. The fun is gone. He isn't alone. Many of my friends have admitted to feeling this. Why is the fun gone when you find someone willing to commit?

We live in a world driven by consumerism, where owning the newest gadget is always the greatest. We can't even own an iPhone without hearing an announcement that Apple is releasing a more updated version within a few months. Think about it, we have been programmed to except and be prepared for the next best product, instead of being appreciated for what we do have. Even if it isn't with physical products, we are continually updating our apps to rid them on the "bugs." Are the technological advancements ruining our dating expectations?

These modern-day apps might help us get faster internet or update our Instagram stories with new and exciting features, but upgrades don't exist in real life. We must step out of this mindset that once we have something, we should expect a better version of that person. Someone's excitement or feelings shouldn't deter you from a potential relationship. Granted over-zealousness does exist which isn't always great. But there is being ready to introduce you to the parents after one date and simply developing feelings after a few dates.

Apple products aren't real life, and people have flaws and "bugs" which updates don't and shouldn't necessarily fix. We have to remember dating is more than just a rush of excitement, more than a chase, and more than a game.