The Talking Method: How To Speak Up
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The Talking Method: How To Speak Up

"Talk about it. It's common sense."

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The Talking Method: How To Speak Up
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Hello Friends, Family and all other creatures who walk among us!

I would like to first start with a couple questions. When something is bothering you, or you are fighting with a family member, why don't we just sit and talk about it? Are we scared? Do we just not have the energy? Too busy? If you were able to answer yes to all of those questions then you don't really care much.

I made up this really great method that really fixes a lot of problems. It's called the "The Talking Method," and I feel it's something that we all need to learn to do to make this world a better place. I'm going to use two examples to explain this method. One incorrect way and one correct one.

Billy & Ann:

Billy has a girlfriend named Ann. Billy went the whole day not hearing from Ann and wasn't sure why. When he finally decided to just call her, she answered. When he asked her why he didn't from her, she said sorry and explain that it was because yesterday Billy said something very hurtful to her and decided that she was mad and didn't want to call him. When Billy asked, why didn't you call me and tell me I hurt you so we could talk about it and I can say sorry. One thing after the next happened and the two go into a big fight.

This is the incorrect way for "The Talking Method." If your feelings are hurt by something someone said, then tell them. Don't hide it and not talk to them. They will either not know what they did, or it will only cause more problems.

Sarah & Ryan:

Sarah and Ryan are the best of friends. The other day Sarah promised Ryan to meet him at a coffee shop and showed up, but with her boyfriend. Ryan enjoyed the time with his friend, but when the day was over walked over to Sarah. He explained to her that he was very hurt that she brought her boyfriend because he wanted to spend time with her that day like they use to. Because Ryan told Sarah how he felt, they were able to use "The Talking Method" to work it out and Sarah apologized and the two were perfectly okay.

This is the correct way to use "The Talking Method."

Now you may be reading this, thinking wow this is stupid, but that's the point. I took the time to dumb it down for everyone and make it into a method for us to understand. If you're hurt about something, or sad, or feeling used, if there is something on your mind, speak up. Talk about it. It's common sense. Don't let it go, the more you let things go, the more it builds up, the more it will tear apart. Don't be scared stand up for yourself, and if you're the one that caused them to feel these ways, be reasonable, nice and just say sorry. I promise you the world would be a better place if you just talk.


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