Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. As much as I love sharing my Valentine's Day with a special someone, each year I feel like the pressures of Valentine's Day for men are getting more and more intense and expensive to really wow that special someone. Why is this happening? I feel like every year the gifts have to beat the gift from the year before times 100. We should be enjoying our sweetheart all year round rather than showering our sweetheart one day a year because that is the time where it is expected to show how much you really love them.

Okay, hear me out, I am currently in a relationship and I am a female, but I do not understand these expectations on Valentine's day. Women are expected to be showered in gifts. And when I say showered I am not talking about your love buying you nice flowers, an expensively sentimental gift because you have been together for awhile and a nice dinner. That is perfectly fine. But now when people look on Instagram or snap chat "relationship goals" is to be getting a countless number of gifts, plus flowers surrounding an entire room, a pricey dinner, a large stuffed animal that is bigger than the girl is and to top it all of some jewelry. Let's slow it down here people. This isn’t cynical, but if Valentine's Day is a day that is supposed to be an intimate day between spouses, then why are we asking for so much more on top of that? Sure who doesn’t like a nice gift from time to time, but the extravagance can be taken down a bit. Every holiday now has to have this certain degree of extravagance instead of appreciating the person. I also have an issue that we depend on one day out of the year to show our complete and utter admiration for the person we are with. We should be showing admiration year round instead of depending on one day of the year to show that we love someone. I'd take 364 of just acknowledgment of the love that the person I am with has for me, rather than them trying to show me that through one single day where it is expected.

I think we should be appreciating all that our spouse does and both spouses should be showered in love and trinkets, not just on this day. I think that we have commercialized valentine's day in such a way that we lost the meaning that we gave to this day. We use it more as an excuse to make up for an entire year’s worth of love that should be shown. I am not saying you should not shower your sweetheart in gifts if that is the kind of person you are regularly, that’s totally okay, but we cannot just show our love one day a year.