Here's How To Survive Having A Fallout With A Close Friend

Here's How To Survive Having A Fallout With A Close Friend

Not everyone is meant to be in your life, and everything happens for a reason.


We have all lost friends, for many different reasons. Sometimes we move away, other times you simply just don't get along anymore. Whatever the case may be, it is okay, and remember everything happens for a reason.

It always sucks when you have a falling out with a close friend. So many emotions and thoughts play into it, like "Where did I go wrong," "Why are they doing this to me," and worst of all, the feeling of guilt. You may want to fix and mend the broken parts of the relationship, but it may be best to just leave it alone for your own sanity.

It is okay to try and reach out a time or two, but it is probably best to leave it be if you are not receiving a response back.

If the other person is not responding, it is clear they do not want to make amends or are not ready to make amends, especially if you have attempted reaching out more than once.

It sucks even more when the person you fell off with has mutual friends with you. It is hard to totally erase the hurt when your friends are hanging out with the person who hurt you. Please remember, you cannot control the opinions your friends have of that person, and you cannot force them to not be friends with them either. That is unfair of you and in situations like these, you should always be the bigger person.

Another reason this situation may make you feel so terrible is that this person probably knows a lot about you. You probably spent a ton of time getting to know each other. However, if this person is not reaching out to you to make amends after you've tried reaching out, they probably do not care enough to spread your business around town. Whatever happened to cause this falling out has clearly allowed them to move on and with that, they most likely aren't going to want to spend any extra energy on you.

This may feel like the end of the world, but it is not.

You still have other friends and your family. You have the activities you have always loved before you were even friends with that person. And if you are taking initiative to be the bigger person, you have the peace of mind knowing that you tried to make things better with that person.

You are not a terrible person at all.

Not to be harsh, but it is time to wipe away the tears and stop the pity parties. If you had an intense falling out with a friend, it probably happened for a good reason, as I said before: everything happens for a reason. It is always best to be the bigger person in the situation and sometimes things may work out between you two.

But, remember your life never revolved around this one person. You have other endeavors to focus on. It is possible to move on. I know that sometimes losing a friend, especially if they were a best friend, can hurt worse than a breakup, but you are strong and time heals all.

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5. What’s the weather? I don’t know what to wear.

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16. I’m so hungry.

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20. Thanks for being my best friend.

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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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