Here's How To Survive Having A Fallout With A Close Friend

Here's How To Survive Having A Fallout With A Close Friend

Not everyone is meant to be in your life, and everything happens for a reason.


We have all lost friends, for many different reasons. Sometimes we move away, other times you simply just don't get along anymore. Whatever the case may be, it is okay, and remember everything happens for a reason.

It always sucks when you have a falling out with a close friend. So many emotions and thoughts play into it, like "Where did I go wrong," "Why are they doing this to me," and worst of all, the feeling of guilt. You may want to fix and mend the broken parts of the relationship, but it may be best to just leave it alone for your own sanity.

It is okay to try and reach out a time or two, but it is probably best to leave it be if you are not receiving a response back.

If the other person is not responding, it is clear they do not want to make amends or are not ready to make amends, especially if you have attempted reaching out more than once.

It sucks even more when the person you fell off with has mutual friends with you. It is hard to totally erase the hurt when your friends are hanging out with the person who hurt you. Please remember, you cannot control the opinions your friends have of that person, and you cannot force them to not be friends with them either. That is unfair of you and in situations like these, you should always be the bigger person.

Another reason this situation may make you feel so terrible is that this person probably knows a lot about you. You probably spent a ton of time getting to know each other. However, if this person is not reaching out to you to make amends after you've tried reaching out, they probably do not care enough to spread your business around town. Whatever happened to cause this falling out has clearly allowed them to move on and with that, they most likely aren't going to want to spend any extra energy on you.

This may feel like the end of the world, but it is not.

You still have other friends and your family. You have the activities you have always loved before you were even friends with that person. And if you are taking initiative to be the bigger person, you have the peace of mind knowing that you tried to make things better with that person.

You are not a terrible person at all.

Not to be harsh, but it is time to wipe away the tears and stop the pity parties. If you had an intense falling out with a friend, it probably happened for a good reason, as I said before: everything happens for a reason. It is always best to be the bigger person in the situation and sometimes things may work out between you two.

But, remember your life never revolved around this one person. You have other endeavors to focus on. It is possible to move on. I know that sometimes losing a friend, especially if they were a best friend, can hurt worse than a breakup, but you are strong and time heals all.

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To My Best Friend Who Taught Me What True Friendship Is, I Can't Thank You Enough

"To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding."

Dear Best Friend,

You have been a part of my life for quite some time now. You have seen my good, bad, and ugly sides and have stuck by my side through it all. I don't know if I could ever find the words to truly thank you for everything your friendship has given me, but I am definitely going to try.

Our lives have taken some twist and turn these past few years, but we have stayed strong through it all.

Thank you for judging me just the right amount.

Throughout our friendship, I have made some very questionable decisions. A lot of people would say "thanks for never judging me," but I feel like everyone needs a best friend who's going to tell them how it is, to tell them when they are about to make a bad decision or how to avoid something worse from happening. You have always told me how it is (even when I don't always want to hear it), but I know that I can come to you whenever I need someone to set me straight.

You're always down to do nothing with me.

I think that you are the one person that I can call up to hang out and do absolutely nothing with and have a good time. From the nights sitting in and playing card games to ordering Chinese food and watching an entire Netflix series while I dance around with the cat: I know that we could do anything, and nothing together and it would be fun.

But also, you're always down to get lit with me.

I swear one day we will be two old moms at a bar drinking vodka crans and laughing about the stupid shit our husbands and children do. You're always down to go out and have a good time. Even if everyone else we're with is miserable, we find a way to laugh at ourselves.

You are one of the few constant things in my life.

I've lost a lot of friends in my life, but you have stayed by my side through everything. I can't remember the last time we actually fought about anything, but even when we do we can't stay mad at each other for more than a day. I know we will be in each other's lives until we literally keel over.

I want you yo know that you're the strongest person I know.

You've dealt with things that not many people go through ever in their life. You have always been so mature, and you handle everything with grace. You inspire me every day with your goals and successes and I am so proud of you and all of your accomplishments.

Above all else, you deserve the world.

It's so easy to get caught up in your own mind and think that you deserve the things that happen to you, but please know that the only thing you deserve is happiness. Please settle for nothing short of that. It may take a bit to find your happiness, but I will be there every step of the way. You're a remarkable human being, and I want nothing but the best for you.

To the person who will hold your heart someday, please do not break it. To the person who may wrong you, you will regret it forever. To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding.

You, my best friend, future bridesmaid, godmother of my children, the person to bail me out of jail, the one who lets me cry on their couch for twelve hours,

I love you.

I will cherish our friendship forever. Thank you for being you.

Love always,

Your best friend.

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Being The Last Friend To Turn 21 Isn't ALL Bad

All your friends have turned 21, but that is okay


You may think being the last one out of your friend group to turn twenty-one is the worst thing in the world, but in all honesty, it doesn't have to be. One of the biggest perks is that everyone of your friends can go out to the bars with you on your birthday. All the people who turn twenty-one first have to wait for people to be able to go out with them, but you get to celebrate your birthday with all of your friends.

Another huge reason you should feel okay with being last to turn twenty-one is thinking about all the money you are saving. The bars are expensive. When you don't go to the bars you are saving so much money because an average bar drink is about seven dollars. This being said seven dollars multiple times a night, multiple nights a week really adds up, so you are going to have to budget your money better.

You don't have to be the one to buy alcohol for everyone else. Having a ton of people ask you to buy them alcohol must get annoying at a point, and if you're the youngest out of your friends, no one will be asking you to do liquor store runs for them because they can all go already for themselves.

The biggest reason is that you can enjoy being young. You should still continue to enjoy going to house parties and just being able to hang out with friends without having to go to the bars. Spend these months before you turn twenty-one just being able to enjoy life without feeling obligated to go out to the bars all the time. You have a great excuse when you don't want to drink on a weekday to just stay in. This being said it will be your turn to turn twenty-one soon.


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