The Importance Of Positive Relationships In College

Surround Yourself With People That Who To See You Grow, Not Negative Nancys

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Going into college, many people focus on needing to find their "lifelong" friends right away, and they tend to miss out on the people that their souls are truly attracted to — people that they may connect with in a deeper way.

Before going to college, I watched enough videos and read enough books on "the biggest mistakes made my freshmen year" to last me a lifetime. So, by the time I moved into my dorm, I had a view on friendship that was in great contrast to my view of friendship in high school. I love my high school friends deeply, even the ones I don't talk to anymore, but in high school, you're confined to the couple hundred people in your school.

My outlook on life was shallow in high school and so was my reason for pursuing friendships — to not be alone. You don't have that much space to connect with different people, the ones that you haven't been having sleepovers with since the 1st grade.

In college, my wish and goal is to make friends that aren't just for temporary fulfillment, but include a lifetime of love and uplift.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you can't meet those very people in high school, because I most definitely have, but don't let that stop you from meeting great people at a time in your life when you're changing and growing as an individual. There are just so many people from so many different cultures and backgrounds in college.

Many people tend to make life-changing mistakes in college, but I refuse to lose myself to people with closed off minds and little dreams because they will only discourage me and the greater path that God has planned for me and that I wish for myself. I wish to meet people that are one with themselves and don't allow the opinions of others to sway their own choice of mind. I wish to meet people who can help me grow and become more loving, intelligent, expressive, empathetic, understanding, and passion filled.

But my wish is also to be that very person for other people. To inspire them and not suppress them because our paths are not the same. To have only pure intentions. To not be jealous because they're moving at a faster pace than I and achieving more than I have. Before I graduate, my wish is to be a better person that not only encourages myself, but that also encourages the people around me.

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An Open Letter To My Unexpected Best Friend

You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better.

“It's so amazing when someone comes to your life and you expect nothing out of it, but suddenly, there right in front of you is everything you ever need."


Dear Unexpected Best Friend,

You were the person I never thought I would speak to and now you are my very best friend. You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better. I can't thank you enough for everything you have done to shape me into the person I am today. You've taught me what it means to be selfless, caring, patient, and, more importantly, adventurous.

You don't realize how much better my life has become and all because you came out of nowhere. I didn't see you coming. I just saw you on occasion, and now I can't see my life without you in it. It's funny how life works itself out like that. Our unexpected friendship filled a hole in my life that I didn't know existed.

I don't even remember what life was like before you came along; it most likely had a lot less laughter and spontaneity than it does today. I can call you about anything and you would drop whatever you're doing to help me in any situation. You know when I need encouragement. You know when I am at my best and when I am at my worst. You always know exactly what to say.

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I couldn't have found a better friend than you if I tried. We balance each other out in the best way possible. You are most definitely the yin to my yang, and I don't care how cliché that sounds. Because of you, I've learned to stop caring what people think and to do my own thing regardless of any backlash I might receive. You are my very favorite part of what makes me who I am to this day.

It's as if I wished up a best friend, and poof — you appeared right in front of me. I am so beyond blessed to have you and I wouldn't trade the world for all our memories. Thanks for coming out of nowhere.

Love you forever and a day.

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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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