Nobody Wants An Abortion, But Everyone Deserves The Right To Choose

Let's Get One Thing Straight: Nobody WANTS An Abortion, But Everyone Deserves The Right To Choose

You can choose not to get one. But you don't have the right to make that choice for anyone else.


As the United States turns into "The Handmaid's Tale's" Gilead right in front of our eyes, the fight against women's reproductive rights comes to the forefront again. Rape, incest, they don't care: Abortions are bad, and so are those who seek them and perform them.

But let's all align on one thing, shall we? Nobody wants an abortion. Nobody.

And here is the amazing thing... If you don't believe in abortion, you don't have to get one! No, really. The existence of safe, legal and accessible abortions does not require you to get one! How about that? It is almost like you are able to choose based on your belief system and your personal situation.

That is the great thing about being pro-choice... You can consider yourself "pro-life"... for you. You do not have to get an abortion. You can believe that you would never even consider an abortion. All of your pregnancies can lead to a baby. You have that right.

You don't have to get an abortion. But you don't have the right to tell the 11-year-old victim of incest who is still years away from even being able to legally consent to sex that she has to carry her relative's child to term.

You don't have to get an abortion. But you don't have the right to tell a rape survivor that she has to carry the product of her trauma for 9 months.

You don't have to get an abortion. But you don't have the right to tell a woman in an abusive relationship with no familial support has to bring a baby into a world where he or she cannot be provided for.

You don't have to get an abortion. But you don't have the right to tell a woman who has no interest in being a mother that the rest of her life is no longer in her hands.

You don't have to get an abortion. But you don't have the right to tell an expectant mother who just found out her child will die once she is born that she has to endure that earth-shattering heartbreak.

Here's the thing: Some women in all of the above situations would keep their baby.

They'll comment below this post and say that their son or daughter is a light and their life and they are so glad they decided to keep their child.

Sure, I was young, but I made it work.

Yes, my child was conceived in trauma, but I didn't hold that against them.

Raising a child single with no support was so hard, but so worth it.

I never thought I wanted a child, but I can't see myself as anything but a mother.

The doctors told me that my baby wouldn't live, but now he's 18 and thriving.

And that is wonderful. It is beautiful. It takes love and strength to raise a child, let alone in any sort of adversity.

But that does not mean that the women who made the opposite decision are monsters or hate children.

It means that, based on their beliefs and their personal situations and the unique challenges that come with their own life, it was the best choice for them.

Being a child, I was not even near ready to have my own.

Carrying the child of my abuser is making it difficult for me to move past this.

I will not be able to provide this baby with the love and support that he or she deserves.

It is not fair to bring a child into the world that I do not want.

I would rather endure the heartbreak of terminating my pregnancy than the heartbreak of watching my child die in my arms.

And guess what? It takes strength to make these decisions, too. You do not live in the shoes or the head of anyone but yourself. You do not understand the complexity of this decision for anyone but yourself.

You do not get to make an extremely difficult and personal decision for anyone but yourself.

Nobody wants an abortion. Nobody has "terminating a pregnancy" on their list of life goals or milestones. In all situations, making the decision to terminate a pregnancy, for any reason, is an extremely difficult decision.

And you DO NOT have the right to tell a woman what is best for her or her life.

If you cannot fathom ever getting an abortion, great. You don't have to. Most people can't fathom it themselves, either. People do not want abortions. But having access to safe and legal abortions when the often scary and heartbreaking situation arises is crucial for all women. All women deserve to make their OWN choice.

Your choice can be no, absolutely not, there is no situation where you would get an abortion. And nobody will stop you from having that belief or not getting an abortion.

But your choice cannot be someone else's. Everyone deserves to have their own.

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I'm The Girl With Baby Fever At 20, Ask Me Anything

Just because I have baby fever doesn't mean that I'm going to have kids right now.


Trust me I have had my fair share of weird looks and disapproving lectures when I say I have baby fever, and I'm only 20.

I know that I have so much more life ahead of me and that I need to wait to have kids. I totally understand I need to finish college and finish law school, get a job, and a house and be financially stable. All of this I know and it has been told to me many times. Of course, I would never want to put myself in a place that would jeopardize my future or my child's future. I want to be smart about it so that my kids can have the best life possible.

But that doesn't mean I don't think about having kids, and what they will look like and their names.

I already know what I want to name my kids, I have for a few years now. I think about being a mom and packing school lunches and taking them to practices. I know being a mom is not easy at all, kids are a pain and expensive, but I have always wanted to be a mom because of the unconditional love that I will have for the rest of my life.

My mom was so amazing, she showed me what being a great mom was.

So if I'm even half the mom she is, then I think my kids will be very lucky. Walking through Target and seeing the baby section gets me every time, all the little shoes and socks. I can't wait to be able to buy all of that stuff and just have someone who is a little piece of me walking around.

I think back to my childhood, and all the moments and memories I have with my parents, honestly, I can't wait for that to be me.

Even though I want kids really badly, I know that I have to wait — I'm only 20 years old so I'm just not ready, and I know that. And just because I get happy seeing the Target baby section, and I already picked out my kids name doesn't mean that I am gonna get pregnant within the next five or six years. I want to be a stable adult before I bring kids into the world.

SEE ALSO: The Struggles Of Living With Baby Fever As A College Student

So don't assume that I'm crazy, irresponsible, too young, or that I want kids right now just because I have baby fever.

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The Crayon Initiative Is Giving Old Crayons A Second Chance, And I Think It's A Great Thing

Who knew that old crayons could have a new life?


According to the Crayon Initiative, more than half of the crayons used in restaurants, schools, and homes are thrown out and turned into a waxy sludge that clogs landfills and will not biodegrade. Most of the population throw crayons out after one use, especially restaurants, due to sanitary reasons.

The story goes that founder Bryan Ware was with his family at dinner one evening and asked himself and his wife the question of what happens to the crayons after they are used. He started a company, the Crayon Initiative, in California in 2014, and it has since grown into something more.

"Each year is exponential growth, it's been pretty in terms of crayons coming in, the support coming in," says Ware.

So far, the company has collected 31,670,451 crayons and turned around and donated 291,150 of them to patients in hospitals all over the nation.

The process is simple. The crayons are donated by restaurants, schools, and homes, then sorted into piles of their specific color, cooked down and reshaped before being molded. Then, they are redistributed to hospital art programs across the U.S., giving young patients and their families a little bit of happiness in the middle of what could be, potentially, a very stressful time.

In fact, it made it all the better for him when he went to visit one of the hospitals that were receivers of his crayons and met a young girl who didn't speak English.

"Her eyes lit up and she starts coloring and is like, this is cool. It's one of those things kids instinctively get and it brings adults back to their childhood," Ware said in an interview.

And, as if there couldn't be any more good news, Ware doesn't take a salary and the entire thing is done by volunteers.

I think this is such an amazing thing because not only does it help the environment, but it helps children who are stuck in hospitals have something to help keep their mind off the reason they are in the hospital in the first place. It is extra important to me because, with all of the visits I've had growing up, the ones that I remember the most are when I was given a toy or pillow or something to make me comfortable.

Of course, none of my visits (at least after the first two or three) were ever super serious and more of just making sure everything was ok.

If you would like a chance to donate or know anyone that would click here for more info and the official website.

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