You Can Support Legal Late-Term Abortions Without Liking Them

I Support Late-Term Abortions, That Doesn't Make Me A Baby-Hating Monster

A late-term abortion is a horrible, devastating and heartbreaking choice... but one I'm glad women have.

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If you think that late-term abortions are for mothers who get to 8.5 months and then randomly decide they no longer want to have a baby, then don't even read this article. This article is not to argue with ignorance. Read some unbiased articles, actually, think about it for two seconds and then realize that women who are due any day now aren't just going to terminate their pregnancies because it is "legal" now. (It is not.)

I've seen so many posts and comments and arguments, the crux of them being, "I can't imagine aborting my child after 24 weeks."

Well, guess what... The women this law will apply to probably can't imagine it, either.

Nearly all abortions occur in the first trimester of pregnancy (approximately 91.1%). This tells us what is (more than likely) a pretty obvious fact: That beyond the first trimester, most women are planning to keep their baby (or give him or her up for adoption). So you can imagine that even being presented with the option of termination would be heartbreaking.

Imagine this: You're pregnant and absolutely ecstatic to bring a child into the world. You go in for an appointment at 30 weeks. During the exam, your doctor is quiet. You are growing extremely anxious. They tell you that they have some bad news. Your daughter has a serious condition, one that will allow her to live less than a year. They can perform a c-section, she will be in the NICU for a long time, but even once you take her home, she has an extremely low chance of survival. Her life will be painful. Or, they can perform an abortion.

What do you choose? For some, they absolutely cannot fathom the idea of termination. They'd rather take a chance at life. And for some, they cannot even fathom the idea of watching their child live a painful, short life that will end in incredible heartbreak.

Both of these are traumatizing decisions. Your pregnancy and your hope for the future and your plans for the child you are so excited for have come crashing down. This is not a lightly made decision. And if you would choose to take your chances, pray for a miracle and get to hold your child in your arms, you should have every single right to.

But if you decide that the trauma of terminating your pregnancy without having to fall further in love with your child and watch him or her struggle every day and deal with the gutwrenching pain of losing them, you should have every single right to make that choice, too.

This is not cut and dry. This is something that changes from woman to woman, from family to family. But one thing stays the same: Learning that the life that you planned for your baby can no longer be as you desperately hoped is heartbreaking. It is a uniquely horrific feeling that, you're right, you can't imagine. No one can imagine it until they're living it. I write about it and I think about it and I have to assume that there is nothing in this world that can prepare you for it.

Posting and commenting that women who choose the path of late-term termination are monsters or killers or heartless is wrong.

Picture this: A pregnant woman and her husband, sitting in an exam room alone after learning devastating news about their pregnancy. They're holding one another, sobbing, thinking through their options. Trying to decide if ending their pregnancy, crushing the hopes and dreams they had for their little baby is the right choice, or continuing on and hoping for a miracle but knowing they should prepare for the heartbreak of their lives. Picture them, through tears, while holding an ultrasound photo to their chest, telling the doctor they choose to terminate. Picture them going home, sitting in the nursery they decorated, calling their parents and telling them their grandchild won't be arriving.

Are you picturing a couple of monsters? A couple of heartless killers?

Or do you see a family put into an impossible situation, trying to make an impossible decision for themselves and their unborn child? A family who threw a baby shower and decorated their nursery and argued over the perfect name for months. Who took progress photos of their baby bump, who talked about what sports their kid would play, who had to hear the devastating news that turned their world upside down?

I don't see a monster. I don't see a killer.

I see pain, I see hardship, I see love.

And I hope that you do, too.

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.

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To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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Not All Trump Supporters Are 'Angry, White Men,' No Matter How Much The Media Tells You That

Unpopular opinion. But true.

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Over the course of the past week, two high profile, news personalities made sweeping generalizations about nearly half of the country. Chris Cuomo (CNN), and Joe Scarborough (MSNBC) erroneously claimed that supporters of the President are overwhelmingly angry, white men.

"... mostly middle-aged angry white males."

CNN's Chris Cuomo sent a tweet, including the above quote, which claimed that Trump supporters were mostly angry, male, and white. Frankly, I'm surprised he didn't throw "straight" in there, seeing as they usually love to add that, as well.

MSNBC's Joe Scarborough claimed that highly educated, and informed Americans were "waking up," and that President Trump's electorate was shrinking to white males, who are angry at the government.

Neither provided data to support their claims. That's probably because they would be hard pressed to find any. In fact, many sources indicate growing, diverse support.

Let's look into some of the evidence to the contrary.

According to a new poll by American Barometer, President Trump's approval rating has continued to climb, currently at 48%. This approval is an upward trend despite the increasing tensions and tariffs with China.

On Election Day, Donald Trump received a measly 8% of the black vote. His rating among black voters, however, has risen in the polls. In May of 2018, his approval rating was reportedly 16% according to numbers from YouGov. This is double the 8% he received on Election Day. If his approval rating among black Americans continues at this rate, he could feasibly reach 24%, or higher by Election Day.

This uptick in support can, in part, be attributed to historically low unemployment rates for black Americans. In early 2019, black unemployment hit just below 6%. For reference, this number was at 8.4% before Trump took office.

Movements like WalkAway, and Blexit can also claim some responsibility for this increase. The two movements have been actively campaigning across the country for people to exit the Democratic Party. They welcome all defectors from the Democratic Party, although they specifically cater to minorities of race, religion, and orientation.

These movements have been successful in helping people awaken to the reality of today's Democratic Party.

Another movement gaining traction is Bienvenido. Bienvenido has been described as the Hispanic version of Blexit. They describe their goal as follows: "We are placing importance on connecting young adults to political figures, entrepreneurs, and lawmakers to enhance their confidence to speak out on their conservative values."

According to a Marist/NPR/PBS poll, in just one year, President Trump's approval rating among Hispanics dramatically rose to 50%. This is huge news, and terrifying to Democrats — for good reason.

It seems that the mainstream — and simultaneously left-wing — media would like to paint Trump supporters as an angry mob of white supremacists. Perhaps they believe their audience is too stupid to research or ask questions in the real world. This narrative of a Republican Party that is racist, sexist, and all the other "—ists" and "—phobics," is a last-ditch effort by Democratic strategists to draw support away from President Trump.

It's not going to work. America can see the truth.

These inaccurate and misleading claims are exactly what inspired Brandon Straka, founder of WalkAway, to leave the Democratic Party. If I were them, I'd be wary of making the same mistake again, thus pushing more voters towards Trump.
Lying and misleading doesn't work anymore. Americans are waking up and thinking for themselves.

The Trump support system is excited, diverse, and coming in numbers. Don't underestimate us.

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