Long distance relationships: they suck! No one wants to be in them but they are definitely worth it for the right people. Here are some tips on how to be in a long distance relationship like a pro. Your man is your lobster, after all.
Distance is hard because you have to rely on technology to talk to one another and that takes time and work.
What's gonna happen: You're going to be really busy and so is he.
How to handle it: Ask how he is and mean it. Maybe you don't have time for a three-hour Skype date, but this simple question goes a long way. Listen to his answer.
Your boyfriend behaves (generally). When you are around, you are his moral compass, his babysitter, the one telling him to put a helmet on or not to eat that. Distance means that he will be faced with decisions and make them without having your helpful guidance in his back pocket.
What's gonna happen: He will do something weird/unexpected/stupid.
How to handle it: A) While you wouldn't have wanted him to make that sandwich with every lunch meat offered just because he can (because that's gross) or to put his dog's cone-collar around his head just for fun (because that's weird), he did it. So instead of making a fuss over something weird or gross, just take a deep breath and accept it. Be supportive of your weird boyfriend.
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B) Just do it back. Weird couples stay together, right?
Long distance is hard because you don't get to see the mannerisms that your boyfriend usually does that show you what he's thinking. Don't even get me started on texting. You never know the tone of what they are saying. It could be sassy and cute or rude and obnoxious. Don't be afraid to speak up.
What's gonna happen: He will do or say something that will confuse you and make you second guess his feelings/your relationship/long distance.
How to handle it: Just ask.
And there will be a time when you have him feeling the same way and he won't know what you are thinking. He will ask you about it. Guys are bold and don't overthink things. He's not strategizing, he's just being honest.
What's gonna happen: He'll ask if you are upset with him.
How to handle it: TELL THE TRUTH. We all know how this will play out if you don't. You don't wanna be the person that holds the hot fajita pan without oven mitts. Don't be Ross. Be honest. If you are upset, say so.
Boys have huge egos. And it's up to the girlfriend to instill confidence in her boyfriend. But how do you do that with long distance?
What's gonna happen: He's going to need your compliments and praise, regardless of how many hours apart from each other you are.
How to handle it: Tell him he's cute. Notice that he's wearing your favorite shirt when you Skype. Flirt with your man!
Thinking about taking a break? Maybe it will make the long distance easier? NO.
Don't take a break.
Just don't do it.
There will be some tough times but just stick it out and keep your eyes on the prize!
You'll be back together soon enough and in an even better relationship.
