At my age I thought I had it all figured out.
Being in my senior year of college and managing to pay my bills on my own I thought I had it all covered. I had good grades, just finished having an amazing study abroad experience. I was doing well socially, financially, and academically. But then, hit something I just wasn't prepared for and it threw me for a loop.
For most of us this can be anything we are not prepared for and sometimes it can be even the littlest thing. I felt like I was having a nervous breakdown and it was not even the second week of school. I did not have a appetite and I was anxious about everything. I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, and ultimately felt like my life was out of control.
It's okay to not be okay.
It's okay to not have everything figured out, that you don't have to get everything together just because you are in your senior year or any year really. It's actually okay to take it day by day instead of getting overwhelmed with the future. Some days may be better than others but that doesn't mean you are a failure. If you take it day by day you are already doing better than you think.
Do not compare your life or progress with anyone else.
Just because people are going out and posting up on social media on how much fun they are having does not mean they have it all together either. Instead of focusing on what other people are doing or feeling you should put that focus back on you.
You always need patience.
I have always sucked at this one and it's the main reason I get anxious and feel like my life is out of control, because one thing no one can control is time. I wanted days to pass by quickly but I wasn't willing to do anything to make them go by quickly. I was sitting around watching Netflix and moping and trust me we are all guilty of that sometimes. But I realized that if I didn't start getting involved in things and motivating myself that nothing was going to change. It helped that I started making amazing friends in my degree program to help keep me on track as well. This is one of the hardest things to wrap our head around. Just because we need to take it day by day doesn't mean we don't need to be proactively taking part in life. Getting involved in social events and clubs helped me out a lot. It helped the days pass faster and helped me be a little more happy about each day.
Just remember that it's okay to not have everything figured out but you also need to try to take steps to get your life back to where you want it to be.
