Being the perpetually single friend, or even just the single at the moment friend, does have its drawbacks. From awkward instances of being the third wheel to trying to find somebody to hang out with, sometimes it's not a fun stage to be at. The worst part of it is when other people take it upon themselves to try and fix your dating life. Sure, you might wish that you had someone like everyone else every once in a while, but it might not be at the top of your priority list.
Having to deal with school, work and clubs, you're already swamped and you know that a relationship might not be the best option for you at the moment. That doesn't mean that you've decided that you'll never date, it just means that you've got too much else going on. Sure, there's room for crushes and harmless flirting, but you know that it's probably just going to stay that way for a while.
If it's not a huge concern to you, then why do others take it upon themselves to get involved in your love life? They might think that they're helping, but the reality of it is that they're kind of grinding on your last good nerve. It's frustrating when someone who's already in a relationship decides that you should be in one too. What if that's not what you want? Maybe it's not just timing for you. Maybe you simply don't want to be in a relationship. What's wrong with that?
Those who try to be your personal matchmaker may have good intentions, but it feels more like they're trying to project their own life onto you. They might even play the happiness card. This can be the most insulting thing that they can say, as you're already happy. You tell them this and they'll counter your argument with, "You say that, but are you really?" Yes, as a matter of fact, you are. Happiness comes from within. In other words, you're in charge of making yourself happy. Sure, you'll feel great when you're with someone, but relying on somebody else to give you happiness is not a good thing.
So why do others care so much when you don't? There's really not a simple answer for this one. On the one hand, someone might do it because they think that you need to be in a relationship. On the other, they might think that you've been single too long and that you need to get back into circulation. It might even have something to do with them being in a relationship. Maybe they think that you won't feel so left out.
Again, their hearts are in the right place, but unless you've asked them to be your personal matchmaker, it's probably for the best that they let you handle this on your own. Some encouragement is fine, but there's a fine line between being supportive and being pushy. So, if this happens again, make sure that you tell your friend, relative, or whoever it is that you'd appreciate them not playing matchmaker.
