When you're fat, big, plus size, or whatever term you'd like to use there are some things that go along with the territory. I decided that I might as well make a list of some of the struggles I face. I know my fellow big girls will totally relate to some, if not all, of these things. Shout out to y'all, you get the struggle!
1. Chub rub: It's real and it's here to stay.
This is THE MOST PAINFUL THING EVER. Don't you dare try to wear skirts or dresses, nothing cute. You may feel fine at first... that's how the chub rub gets yah. Makes you think that maybe you just won't get it today! Wrong. For some people, this is just a summertime problem. For me it's all year long (one of the lucky ones I guess lol.)
2. "You're so pretty for a big girl"
This is not a compliment, despite what people think. So, I'm pretty for a big girl? What about compared to skinny girls? Do I become ugly? NO. Just say I'm pretty if you really think so. Don't attach anything to it. You can acknowledge I'm fat, but don't do it while trying to give me a "compliment".
3. Online Shopping
I'll spend two hours picking out clothes and throwing them into my online cart. Then I realize... Why the hell am I online shopping? I know damn well if I don't try stuff on then I run the high risk of it not fitting right when I finally get it. All that work and I'll end up with nothing to show for it.
4. Eating around people/in public
I absolutely hate eating around people. People stare at me whenever I'm eating. Just the other day this group of guys and girls decided to stare and whisper at me while eating, then they'd laugh. Listen, I'm human and I've got to eat too. I don't understand why you can't just leave me alone. It doesn't matter if I eat a small portion or a lot, people think it's fun to watch and laugh.
5. Being the biggest family member at Thansgiving or Christmas dinner
So I show up to dinner like:
And trust me, I'm proud! However, y'all know there's the judgemental family members looking at you like:
Honey, you can judge all you want but you only come around once a year to eat all our food. So with that, your opinion is irrelevant.
6. Amusement park rides can be hella scary
Nothing but fear runs through you on these rides. You gotta pray you're buckled in right and hope that thing won't come undone!
7. The gym is a struggle
People stay staring at you whenever you go to the gym when you're bigger. Like, they judge you for being fat and they judge you for being at the gym. You can't please people.
8. Don't you dare cut your hair into a bob
If you think it looked bad on Johnny Depp, just wait till you see it on yourself. It is not flattering, please believe me. Do not try this at home... or ever.
9. "Fat people are lazy"
I don't understand why people always have the nerve to say this, but it's definitely not true. It's not your size that makes you lazy, it's your personal work ethic.
10. Boob sweat is real af
Usually big boobs come along with being fat. It's not all it's cracked up to be, mostly due to boob sweat. Along with the chub rub, it's an all year thang. And yeah, it's pretty gross man.
So although we face these struggles and so many more, we're still great just like everyone else. Stay fabulous my fellow big girls! Xoxo
