I've noticed a lot of different articles and videos about being either an extrovert or an introvert on my social media. And the more and more I see I realize that I fit somewhere in the middle of the two. My friend was really into the Myers-Briggs personality types and he was really confused to see that I classified as an Extrovert even though he saw me as an introvert. And that's only one of the few times many people have been confused with this duality. And if anyone is thinking about this, yes I am a Gemini.
So if you're anything like me, you feel like you are both ends of the extrovert/introvert spectrum. Because it really just depends on the day. And as a college student, these are just some of the ways that being an Ambivert can be a struggle.
1. Social events
Now, I am in a sorority and we tend to do tons of events with sisters, other orgs and within the community. So I am in constant contact with people. Which is fine, because being around people brings life to me in a way that would drain most people. But by the time we are done with the event and I am alone, I am so glad the event is over. The pressure is off and I can stop worrying about being "on".
2. Small Talk
I am the queen of this....only when I want to be. I am the person who strikes up a conversation with the cashier at the store or with the person in line next to me. I am also the friendly face that people come to when they need help with something, like directions. But sometimes I am chanting "please don't talk to me" over and over again. And when I am forced to talk to someone I hate the small talk because I prefer deeper conversations.
3. Being vocal in groups
I'm not sure if this is an ambivert thing or just a me thing but I'll put it here anyway. At my school we have discussions that go along with the lectures. This class is purposely made for everyone to talk and share their opinions about the reading or class etc. But for me it can be a blessing and a curse. Sometimes I like sharing everything that I think or I only say certain things if I feel like they are important to the conversation. So I usually have two settings, vocal or silent.
4. Going Out
Now, I normally don't go out because I am exhausted. But when I do go out, I tend to shock people. I know being so complex and multifaceted is amazing... just kidding! Seriously, there is no in between for this. I am always down to go out with friends and party or just chill at someone's place. But other times I am just in the mood to stay at home, by myself and watch Netflix.
Being an ambivert in general is pretty great. You learn to say no and when to say yes. It's like being able to listen to yourself at all times. The duality of it all can overwhelm some people and confuse them because you are never really going to provide the same response but I love it. And you should too! Embrace it and learn what it means for you to be an ambivert.
