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As Girls, We Face The Constant Struggle Of Keeping True Friends, But True Friends Will Make It Worth It

Finding girl friends is hard, but true ones are so important to have.

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As Girls, We Face The Constant Struggle Of Keeping True Friends, But True Friends Will Make It Worth It
Katelyn Dougherty

To all my girls out there, this one's for you.

The most common thing we as females struggle with is other girls. Often times we find ourselves feeling down and feeling unworthy of life because other females around us have the power to put us in a hard position lacking in self-love.

This struggle is one we deal with, and I am here to shed some light on the topic.

Growing up, I was always the loudest, most talkative kid. I was always the first one to raise my hand and the first to be the one screaming in a room. I have a very loud voice, which is often times annoying to others. This dilemma is one that I've faced my entire life, and often times it has affected my friendships.

In middle school, I had a pretty large friend group and these girls were girls I spent almost all my time with. I was on the cheerleading team with them, so many hours and days were spent surrounded by them. Entering into high school, I was also on the cheerleading team with a few of the same girls but also some new ones. This experience, being a high school cheerleader, was something that shaped me into the person I am today for both good and bad reasons.

Although I was on the cheerleading team, I had other friends that were not on the team. Some of these girls made a part of high school for me absolutely miserable. I struggled with feeling included in many instances and also struggled with my self-worth a lot during this period of time. This was the result of being constantly on the outside of what was supposed to be my friend group.

One day in the sophomore year of high school, I can vividly remember a time when it seemed as if my entire world had fallen apart right in front of me. I was sitting in class when all of a sudden my phone lit up. On my phone screen stared back at me a message about a rumor that was started about me. This rumor made me look like a horrible persona and was 110% the furthest thing from the truth. This rumor absolutely ruined my life for about 3-4 months. This rumor caused all of my "friends" to completely drop me and I went through the darkest point in my life. I had no friends for a very long time and felt as if I was unworthy of friendship.

It wasn't until my senior year that I truly found friends that supported me in all that I chose to do. When I came to college, I experienced a new type of friendship. I joined a sorority and found the most supportive group of girls I could've ever found. For one of the first times in my life, I found a group of women that love me for me and support me in all I chose to do and I never feel like I can't be myself. Finding this group of girls took a hell of a lot of patience and my ability to love myself in ways I didn't think were possible.

This struggle is one we commonly deal with as girls, if you're currently dealing with this issue, my encouragement is to simply be yourself and wait. Friends that want to be your friends and friends that will support you will fight for your friendship and not treat you like others do.

This is important to realize, and when realized, will make all the difference.

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