It is really so easy to change things in this day and age. You can change basically anything that you want, whenever you want. If you don’t like your hair color, you can have a brand new one in a few short hours. If you don’t like where you live, you can (in theory) move anywhere in the world and start a new life. We really live in an ever changing world now. So what happens when you are not so good with change? Well, let me tell you, it really is a true struggle.
Personally, I have never been good with change. This is a sad but true example of just how attached I get to things: when Instagram changed the icon design for the app I refused to update the app because I hated the change from the icon I had for years. I didn’t update it until the app basically wouldn’t work because it wasn’t up to date enough. Even this tiny thing changing was a lot for me.
So what happens to me with big changes? They’re very bad, I try to avoid at all costs. But it seems like regardless of what I do, everything still changes. We now live in a world where we are so connected to everyone that we can be friends with people one day and not the next. Things can change in the blink of an eye and a lot of times we have no control over it or anything else happening.
I think that not being good with change mainly stems from being afraid of what I’m leaving behind in the change. There is that whole saying that things that are coming are better than the things that have passed, but that is not always true. Sometimes things don’t get better. Sometimes we don’t know that what we’re leaving behind is one of the greatest things we’ll ever have. We just don’t know. We only know we were in the “good ol’ days” after we’ve been in them.
So what happens when things change? We could be moving on to something 10 times better, or going back to something even worse. This is the main reason I am so bad with change. It’s kind of like just a fear of not knowing what is going to happen. It’s like a fear of the unknown or a fear of missing out on something. It really makes change a scary thing, especially when things seem to be ever changing in today’s world.
But change is always happening and definitely will always be happening. It’s something we eventually need to come to terms with and accept. I am basically writing this because I myself need to accept that things are always changing and we need to accept it eventually. I definitely need the reminder that change is a normal thing and it also is not the end of the world entirely. We need change to grow up and move on and begin different and usually better phases of our lives.
