I Am A Strong, Independent Woman, But I Will Never Be A Feminist

I Am A Strong, Independent Woman, But I Will Never Be A Feminist

Get over it.

Feminism has become a major topic all around us.

You can't watch TV, get on Facebook, or even read a magazine without seeing some kind of discussion about feminism. Look, I get it.

Women want to feel strong, empowered, and like they have the same rights as men. But the way I see it, we have all that already.

Here is why you won't see me jumping on the feminist bandwagon...

While the beginnings of feminism had good intentions, it has turned into a man-hating competition. Women put down men for so many things. It seems as though modern day feminists are just trying to compile a list of all the reasons we should hate men. It doesn't make sense.

First of all, the wage gap is not real.

Women do not generally make less than men for putting in the same hours at the same job. I know and have spoken with several women who make more than men in the same male-dominated industry.

Women have the same basic rights as men.

Anything a man can legally do, a woman can do it too. Nobody is stopping you from signing up for the military or going to work anymore. Take advantage of those rights and realize that women in other countries don't have near the rights that we do.

Did you know that Saudi Arabia just recently allowed women the right to drive?


Can you imagine not being able to hop in your car and go where you need to go?

Now, let's look at rape culture.

I know this is a touchy subject and my heart really does go out to all of the people who have been through such a horrible thing. I am sorry that you had to go through that.

What most people either fail to realize or push out of their thoughts is that men get raped too.

The feminist perspective on the male gender has become so twisted that they believe all men are misogynistic assholes. You can't generalize a whole group of people based on the actions of a few.

With that being said, I realize all feminists are not like this. But the majority of them do act this way, in my experience.

It is harder to prove that a male has been raped because most people assume that all men want sex all the time. So how could it be rape if a man is a victim?

It is easy for women to accuse men of rape, but if a man accuses a woman of rape, it is hardly believed and the man is brutally ridiculed. I believe it's this modern feminist point of view that labels men as guilty before the truth ever comes out, and discourages men from speaking up when they're truly victims.

I also don't see any women protesting the fact that women don't have to sign up for the draft at 18 like men do.

But I guess nobody wants to talk about that.

I realize that feminism sheds light on real issues. Please realize that I am not blind to those things.

However, I believe that feminism as a movement has completely been blown out of the proportion and the intentions are no longer pure.

At the end of the day, it doesn't matter if I'm a feminist or if I'm not.

Most of these huge protests and all of the news coverage are only a distraction from bigger things anyway. If you are a hardcore feminist and you are proud of it, good for you. I'm glad you are standing up for something you believe in. But you won't see me at a protest rally or wearing a vagina costume.

Hope there are no hard feelings.

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Sept 2013 I found myself writing to an evangelist Jennifer Beckham looking for more, looking for answers cause at the time I was in a dark place, and stuck no matter what I did. She wrote back! I cried as I read her respond. She sent me scriptures of who god is and what he wants for us. God says we are more than conquers and endurance develops strength and character. She encouraged me that I was on the right track. Not to give up and she would be praying for me. I saw Jennifer Beckham at a conference that year. I don't remember what she specifically talked about but I remember the feeling. The feeling of wanting to burst out crying, I could feel my eyes being filled with tears, and my heart racing but I wouldn't let out the tears. My pride was too big. I wanted to be strong so I did my best to hold it all in, and I did. At this conference they offered the audience who wanted to go up for prayer and dedicate their life to Jesus Christ. Surprisingly I went up, but I went up with other people that were seeking out salvation. I wasn’t sure if I was going up to support the other people or if it was truly for me. I was confused, even though I said the prayer. I became more confused as the days went on and I wasn't feeling a difference in my life. Nothing was changing. I started reading the bible and many books, listening to sermons, and surrounding myself with positive people. I gave my life to Jesus, but I didn't feel like I was set FREE! I continued feeling empty, lost, broken, guilty, and hurt from the past. There were so many days where I just wanted to give up. Almost felt pointless to fight for my life. At this point in my life I didn't know God very much, but I had just a little bit of faith. My faith was as big as a mustard seed and God took care of the rest. Day by day, year by year I started noticing my life changing. I noticed I was changing. I started feeling happy with who I was and where I was in life. I no longer questioned God about the things that happened to me. In my heart I was ok with the wounds, the hardships, and trials from the past because I now understood those wounds and trials. I realized I was SET FREE! not perfect but set free. I started understanding who I was as a child of our heavenly father. Now it’s Jan 2018 and I’m in awe of who I am and where I am in life, all because of Jesus. His so faithful! I think of the favor, the grace, his mercy, his love, his joy and blessing that he gives me even when I’m undeserving of it, it’s overwhelming. He has never left me nor forsake me. I can say Jesus you changed everything and my heart so forever thankful. 

Today, I encourage you like Jennifer Beckham encouraged me. Keep going and don't give up. No matter what your past looks like believe in your heart that you were created for greatness. Don't let your past determine your future, be the change you want in your life. You have it in you. There is so much more to life, don't miss out on it. It's time to take back your happiness, love, joy, freedom and so much more. It's time to take back EVERYTHING the enemy has taken from you. God has made you an overcomer. I speak it right now, that you will be victorious in 2018 and the years to come. Remember, God loves you! 

Psalm 136:26 (AMP) O give thanks to the God of heaven, for his mercy and loving-kindness endures forever!

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