This isn't another post about the LGBTQ community, everyone has their own thoughts and opinions.
And are entitled to them.
This is about an ongoing issue no one wants to talk about, a secret issue that is shameful for parents and young people to talk about. And that is being straight and having thoughts for the opposite sex. Particularly in young children.
Children experiment, children learn, children are curious, and sex is on the top of their list.
Every young boy and girl reaches an age where they not only discover their own sexual boy parts but their feelings as well.
Whether they are raised in a strict helicopter parenting household, a single parent household, a poor environment, a good environment, it happens.
And with kids, in particular, we freak out most of the time.
Thinking "No you're far too young."
"No, you cannot understand."
And sometimes we as the adults try to make the decisions for them. And tell them our own opinions, stating them as facts.
A boy wears a dress or doesn't want to play sports and we either freak out or overthink it.
A teenage girl doesn't show an interest in boys, dresses more masculine, and prefers a different style, and we label.
No I for one have no problem with the LGBTQ community and their decisions.
But we as a society like to push things.
We either tell that boy, "No No you can't wear that, you have to do this, and you can't do that."
or we label the girl, and maybe even push her towards guys and shame her for not being feminine.
And then the worst of all, if children have sexual feelings for the same sex.
Most Gay and Lesbian individuals would say their feelings often times started at a young age.
Imagine if they could have shared these feelings with their parents or loved ones?
Or is it possible that they are just curious?
Now not all behavior is okay, particularly in a school setting, when children act out on their sexual feelings.
There is a fine line.
But maybe we should be talking more, asking more, and understanding more.
What if Billy likes girls but he got in trouble at school touching a boy?
What if Sally is 13 years old and she kissed her best female friend?
But neither are gay.
Is this possible?
And if addressed properly, what if children who have a healthy sexual understanding, and a healthy and safe environment to experiment in, and ultimately able to learn?
And maybe they'll grow up to be in the LGBTQ community, and maybe they won't, but at least they weren't made to feel "wrong," "bad," or "disgusting."
Children self-pleasure just as adults do, and we don't want to hear that, we don't even want to think that.
But it happens, and if it wasn't so taboo, and so "wrong," maybe children wouldn't act out in negative ways, or grow apart from their parents, hiding this type of information.
What if we don't label them at all, and just see them as people?
People with a sex drive, with sexual tendencies, figuring out what they feel and why they feel it.
