5 Stores You Should Never Take Your Girlfriend To, Because You'll NEVER Get Out

5 Stores You Should Never Take Your Girlfriend To, Because You'll NEVER Get Out

You've heard the jokes about Target... they're real. It's a real problem.

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There are some stores that really are money suckers... everything is cheap and cute, and you just want to buy everything. Guys, here are the seven stores you should NEVER, EVER, under ANY circumstances, shop at with your girlfriend!

1. Target

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Never EVER take your girlfriend here! She'll find an irresistable pair of booties she HAS to buy, or a cute new top, or some comfy sweats that would look super cute with that hoodie of yours. Don't do it.... just don't.

2. T.J.Maxx

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This is another trap. Everything is cute and name-brand, and there will be something she wants, I promise. Last time I was there they had Tommy Hilfiger sweatshirts on sale... really had to demonstrate self-control there.

3. Bath and Body Works

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This one is especially dangerous because there's ALWAYS a sale, and you normally get a bunch of free products, so trying to not buy something is really REALLY hard. I always cave, I can't help it.

4. Yankee Candle, or any candle store.

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Candles are like a thing I buy and never use but can't talk myself out of buying. I love the way they smell, but I always forget about them. It's a slippery slope, and once you get started it's hard to stop buying them.

5. Forever 21

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Want a new outfit for the weekend? $20 and you're set. Girls LOVE Forever21, and it's so hard to say no when you find something you love for $10...

Well, fellas, I hope this list helped if you want to save money and/or time! Girlies, what are your favorite stores I forgot to mention?

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It's Time To Challenge 'You Complete Me' Culture

Your partner should be your companion, not your completion!

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After having some time to reflect after "The Bachelor" finale, I think this is the perfect time to put this article out there. In this article, I want to offer you a different perspective on how to view relationships. I want to challenge you to defy cultural assumptions of what romance is and shine a light on how codependency can squash your happiness.

The puzzle analogy

In wedding vows or proclamations of love, we often hear the phrase, "You complete me." We compare finding our person to finding the missing piece of the puzzle in our lives. Once we place that puzzle piece in the empty hole, we can finally see the beautiful and complete picture. Without that piece, we would be in a frenzy, searching all around under the kitchen table and on everyone's chairs to see if we find it. We desperately hope the dog, or the baby, hasn't eaten it. We hold out hope.

This comparison, as I have found, has created quite an issue in our modern day society. We are so obsessed with finding that missing piece in our lives to complete us that we often search in the wrong places or live in unending frustration. Sometimes we find a perfectly wonderful person, but they seem to lack everything on our checklists of what we have deemed as the perfect missing piece, so we let them go. If you are one of the lucky ones who has found a person who fills the void in your life, you often try to shove them into the puzzle as hard as you can and force them to fit. You need to be filled; you need to have the beauty of the final picture — without it, how could you ever be completely happy?

Where did I go wrong?

I was riding along in the car with my boyfriend when I realized we had hit a rough patch. We are a long distance couple — going to separate colleges four hours away from each other — but we only live two minutes away from each other when we are back at home.

I had never had a boyfriend before my second semester of senior year. I had always been very independent. I moved a lot, which meant anytime I got close to dating someone, POOF, there I went. But, this time I had finally stayed and found an amazing guy — my best friend.

When I was single, I was the queen of relationship advice (as we all are when we are not blinded by rose-colored romance). Finally being in a relationship made me realize how easy it was to fall into habits that I had always scorned others for. I began letting this relationship affect me in ways I never even suspected it could.

Don't get me wrong, this was not his doing at all. My boyfriend is the sweetest guy I know. He is always lifting me up and supporting me to reach my dreams. While we both struggle with anxiety and depression, we have found a way to always put our individual mental health first. My boyfriend had dated people before me, but I had not. This altered expectations of what this relationship was supposed to look like for each of us. He knew what mistakes to try to stay away from, while I was still trying to figure it out.

How to reframe your perspective in relationships

Regardless of my background, I think I have stumbled on the most amazing way of reframing perspective in relationships. Once I started changing the lens on how I looked at our relationship, we started bickering less and I became so much happier.

Here it is: your significant other is your COMPANION, not your COMPLETION.

Of course, you should feel happy and enjoy when your partner is around. They should treat you with care and make you laugh, but they should not be the person filling the empty piece of your heart — that isn't their responsibility. They should not be the ultimate source of happiness that makes you feel emotionally whole. This perspective is extremely unhealthy because people are fickle and we make mistakes. We screw up . . . all the time. Our culture loves to use the phrase, "You complete me." It sounds extremely romantic. However, it can be so problematic.

Now, when I spend time or communicate with my boyfriend, I see it as a lucky bonus we get after we both have spent time improving ourselves that day. When I text him, I don't expect him to reply to me immediately — even though I still wish he would because of the need for instant gratification, let's be real. I know that he is going after his dreams by working as hard as he can to make a life for himself. As a girlfriend, not only should I commend him for that, but I should also give him the space to do that. Likewise, I should go after my dreams and work as hard as I can to achieve them.

Your partner should be the fun blanket you have on top of your comforter. You would be just as warm without the blanket and still get a good nights sleep, but the blanket is still really fuzzy and gives you extra joy and you can wrap it around you while you are watching tv. And, if it is a really cold and stormy night, perhaps you snuggle up with your blanket and hold it tightly for a little extra warmth and comfort.

I am a believer in God, and I believe his holy spirit makes me whole. Regardless of if you share this belief or not, I think we can all agree that we are all supposed to walk through life together and lift each other up. If we expect to put our happiness and worth on the shoulders of one person, then that relationship is going to crumble. Why would you want the person you love most to crumble? I certainly don't. I want to be able to look my partner in the eyes and say, "I love you and I want to stand by you when you need me. When you don't, I will be okay because I am still whole and fulfilled".

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Buying Bathing Suits Online Is The Worst

Online Shopping isn't for everyone, sadly.

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With Spring Break right around the corner, I find myself online shopping more than usual. I would say I'm somewhat an online-shopping connoisseur, meaning I do it CONSTANTLY. However, just because I'm always online shopping doesn't mean I actually buy the clothes I put into my shopping cart; it's fun imagining I have a bottomless wallet, okay! Online shopping can get time-consuming and can lead you down a dark hole -I know this from experience; I often find myself aimlessly staring, scrolling, and clicking for two hours or more. This can become a problem if I have homework or exams to study for, but it's hard to just stop, there are just too many stores and clothes to get through!

One issue that seems to follow me whenever I decide to online shop is picking the right size and PRAYING it'll fit me. Online shopping doesn't give you the liberty of trying on different sizes until you find the right match; instead, it's a guessing game full of anxiety and ultimately regret if it doesn't fit.

I know the feeling of regret way too often, for I'm a very tiny girl who just so happens to have a very large bust, making it extremely hard to pick what size would be most flattering and appropriate. It gets really frustrating when I can't buy some of the things I want due to my body, and gets even more frustrating when I can't buy cheap and cute bathing suits like most girls my age.

Since my body is extremely unproportional, I have to get two different sizes for my bathing suits -a small for the bottom and a large/extra large for the top. However, for some unknown reason, online bathing suit companies decided to only offer their two-piece sets in one size. For example, you can only buy a bathing suit in a size small top and small bottom, medium top and medium bottom, large top, and large bottom, etc. It's ridiculous and unfair to assume that every girl is built to be the same size in her butt and bust!

I know they're just bathing suits, but this issue represents the struggles I have endured my entire life trying to find clothes that flatter my body; I'm constantly wishing I had an easier body-type to dress, not only for comfort but for convenience. It seems small, but I want to be able to buy a cute bathing suit online like all of my friends. However, I won't be granted this luxury until these bathing suit companies realize their sizing is exclusive and unjust.

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