Stop trying to be like her.

You know who I'm talking about, your boyfriend's ex. Stop trying to be everything she was just because he liked her and the things about her at some point.

I get it, I really do. We've all been there before, we see our boyfriends ex, see past pictures, or hear someone talk about them and you wonder since he loved her so much "maybe I should be more like her?" Well, you shouldn't, it's true he loved those things about her but there are so many things he loves about you so why try to change into something you're not?

I know it's hard to not think things like "she's so much prettier" or "they looked so happy together" the thing is you're beautiful just the way you are and your boyfriend thinks the same, He's happy with you, or he wouldn't be with you. Don't let that little voice inside your head make you think any different.

She could have blonde hair, green eyes, long legs and very petite, does that mean you dye your hair, wear contacts and change everything about your looks because that's what he once liked? No. So why change the way you are as a person. You don't have to be like someone else to be loved by the same person that loved them. Be the girl he's loved everything about thus far.

This goes far past being as funny or outgoing as your boyfriend's ex was, you don't have to be into things they were into. Honestly, if he makes you feel like that, there's a problem. You're dating your boyfriend now, not her so there's obviously a reason for that. Be you and be the person he's liked all this time.

What you're feeling isn't new and you won't be the last person to feel this way. When you find out about your boyfriend's ex you can't help but look her up and go through her instagram but I'm telling you there's not point in it. Your boyfriend is with you for you and theres no need to change anything or try to be like his past loves.