Coming to college was a huge transition for me. It meant that I'd have to leave some of my closest friends behind and I'd pretty much be alone. As the first few weeks of the first semester flew by, I felt some of my friendships from back home start to drift apart as I started new friendships at school. I tried to text them almost every day, but there's only so much you can catch up on over text.
I tried to get them to visit, but they were busy like most college students are. Naturally, I became upset. I felt like I didn't matter to them anymore.
Even though I felt like my friendships were drifting apart, I still held on. I truly believed that they were just busy and didn't have much time to do anything but school and work, and occasionally, hang out with the people who were home. I understood that gas isn't cheap and that it takes a good amount of gas and money to travel up to Rowan. I gave them the benefit of the doubt.
However, this feeling soon passed when I moved back home and started commuting to school. Things were still the same with them and I still don't see them much. Yes, we're both busy, but there are days where we both are free and they still choose the other friends over me.
Over the past few weeks, I've realized that if they truly care, they'll make time. I stopped stressing over keeping friendships because, honestly, I'm too busy to have time to deal with drama. It's not worth stressing over things you can't control, like how much someone values you.
I'm not saying I have any issues with any of them because I don't. I'm saying that I stopped stressing.
If you're in the same position, trying to keep a friendship that seems to be one-sided, let them go. It's not worth stressing yourself out and being sad all the time. If your friendship is meant to be, you guys will find your ways back to each other. It will just take time.
