Stop Sorority-Shaming

Stop Sorority-Shaming

Because we are not what the media wants you to believe.

Many of you have heard the term "slut-shaming." For those who haven't, "slut-shaming" is the act of denouncing a woman for her sexual activity, whether it be real or presumed. The issue of "slut-shaming" has been popular in recent pop culture, and many people are doing their part to put an end to these judgements. A woman's sexual activity is her choice and, therefore, she should not be ashamed of her choices.

An issue similar to "slut-shaming" I want to address is the issue of "sorority-shaming."

The stereotypes of typical sorority girls in the media date back decades. In movies, sorority members are portrayed as ditzy blondes who live for frat boys and drinking. In October 2015, a group of girls were mocked on TV and the internet for taking selfies at a baseball game, and every report made sure to emphasize the fact that these girls were in a sorority.

The girls' utter lack of interest in the game they were attending was hilarious, but their title of "sorority girl's" was included as if to say "of course they didn't care about the game, they're sorority girls." That is the message I received after reading a few articles about the video, and I'm confident I am not the only one. The selfie incident is only one example of sorority girls being portrayed negatively because of the stigma associated with sororities. Personally, I have felt looked down upon by others after saying I am in a sorority which is why I want to bring this issue to light.

There is much more to being a sorority member than many people think. When a girl is initiated into a sorority she is taking on a serious obligation. From the moment you accept your bid, you are the face of your chapter. Your actions not only represent you but all your sisters at your school and across the nation. What the media fails to portray are the positive aspects to a sorority. Every sorority is linked to a philanthropy in which they raise money and awareness for their cause. For many girls, the philanthropy of a sorority may be their deciding factor on which chapter they want to become a part of.

Many people don't know that most chapters require their members to have a certain GPA and complete study hours every week. Those who fail to uphold these standards are typically put on probation, meaning they aren't allowed to attend social events until they can raise their GPA. This shows that academics are taken more seriously than social events.

The next cliche I want to address is the statement "you're basically just paying for friends." Wrong. Yes, every member must pay dues, but that is not the equivalent to paying for our friends. When I moved across the country to attend college, I knew absolutely no one, so the thought of joining a sorority and meeting new people sounded great to me. I can confidently say that I would not be nearly as happy as I am if it weren't for the friendships I have made through my sorority. Beyond being friends, we are sisters; we are bound through our sorority and we are grateful for that.

Next time you find yourself looking down on someone for being in a sorority, think about the positive aspects of Greek life and try to get to know them for who they are and not their label.

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Will Enough Ever Be Enough?

Yet another school shooting in America, still nothing done. We are dying.

Tuesday, March 20th, 2018: We are all heartbroken to hear about another school shooting.

At Great Mills High School in Maryland, a 17-year-old male is pronounced dead at the scene after shooting two other students and a school resource officer. Just before their first period started, at 7:55 am, Austin Rollins shot one male and one female student with a handgun before being shot by the school's resource officer. While the 16-year-old female is in critical condition, the 14-year-old male is currently stable. This is the 17th school shooting in 2018. That's 17 days out of the past 80 that parents have gone to bed with their children in body bags as a result of gun violence.

I don't care what political party you associate with, gun violence is completely out of control. I am a registered Republican and completely agree with stricter gun laws. Learn the difference between a gun ban and sales control. Concerned citizens are not trying to take away your guns, but are trying to take away the rights from those that are risks.

Could you imagine legally having to send your child to school but never coming back? You've packed their lunch, maybe with a special note, and gave them a kiss before they left for school, not knowing that it was their last. No matter where we go, we are not safe. We can't go to malls, movie theaters, schools, or even churches without having to worry if it will be our last trip. Our homes, our places of worship, and our schools are supposed to be the places where we feel safest and, instead, our children are filled with fear. Instead of focusing on the political views that divide these groups, why don't we focus on what unites us? Why don't we focus on protecting our kin?

Everyone has had an opinion on the walkouts that have been happening around the country. Everyone has had an opinion on the 17 minutes of silence for the 17 children lost in the Florida shooting. I've seen people disgusted that Nickelodeon had 17 minutes of broadcast cut because it "interrupted the only program [I] let [my] children watch".

If your child was shot at school, you wouldn't have to worry about what programs they watch, but rather where to bury them and how to afford their memorial.

I've seen people saying that it's no wonder that Millenials are dumb. They "find any excuse to cut class". Have you thought about the fact that they are genuinely worried about going to school?

Personally, I've experienced both a shooting scare at my high school and a bomb threat at my college. I shouldn't have to worry about my life ending. I'm legally forced to go to high school and get an education or I'm putting myself into a lifetime of debt to get a degree.

We are all too young to stress about gun violence. Our school years are supposed to be the times our of lives, but they're being wasted on worrying about dying every day.

Rest in peace to all of those who have lost their lives in shootings, not only this year, but always. Hopes, thoughts, and prayers go out to their loved ones. One day, we will unite and find a solution.

We need to work together and forget the labels of parties and cliques in school and look out for one another instead. There is no kind but mankind.

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The Republican Versus Democrat Stigma Needs To Slow Down

We Need To Be Individual Again

We as a society have developed an unnecessary need to place people in a specific party based on what could be a single value out of many. This is a letter for those who do not define themselves as one or the other; for those whose values range between conservative and liberal, for those who feel the unfortunate pressure of society to choose one even though your values do not fit just one.

The political parties at one point generally just meant “these are my basic beliefs, so this is the candidate I will vote for because they most closely represent them.” Party affiliation was harmless. Republicans and Democrats could get along fine, differing opinions not getting in the way of relationships and alignment. More importantly, you did not have to be part of a specific political party to be an active member of society. Your opinions and principles were yours.

Over the years following the last two election races, political parties gained a much more significant and defining meaning in our lives as individuals and as members of society. There is a newly developed stigma behind political opinions. You are almost pressured to feel one way or another about every single topic. If a majority of your values are of the conservative agenda, you must be a heart-and-all Republican. In contrast, if you are more liberal-leaning you are docked as a set Democrat. We as citizens are being labeled according to what may be a few hard-values. And dishearteningly enough, can be ridiculed for what we value. Even if you might not value everything the same as your determined party.

There exists those of us that hold values from both parties. It is possible to value women’s rights and also value a traditional marriage. It is possible to be a gun owner and also active in keeping children safe in school. You do not have to just submit to every belief of one party. You can value aspects of different parties and still be a functioning member of the American society. Do not let the looming obligation to declare yourself as strictly one or the other. You do not have to pretend you agree with everything Democratic or everything Republican; you can have your own values. And you should. Our society is messed up in the way that values are pushed on citizens. We are meant to be free individuals with our private values.

It is not fair to those of us who value different things. Not every American is a to-the-bone Democrat or Republican. It is possible to hold liberal beliefs as a conservative person. And Vice-Versa. We need to stop labeling one another as one or the other, conservative or liberal. We need to stop silencing each other because we have differing views. We need to accept not everyone is perfectly one party, and diversity exists. Open mindedness exists in Americans, despite the seemingly growing generalizations. We need to be able to agree to disagree on certain topics.
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