Imagine this . . .

You're walking in a neighborhood park, enjoying the beautiful summer weather. You're minding your own business for the most part - but, like all humans, do the occasional people watching. There is that cute elderly couple that is always feeding the birds on the edge of the river, how sweet. There is the mother pushing her 2-year-old son in a stroller, as he makes tiny toddler noises, awwee, how incredibly cute! There are the local bike riders, the soloists, the parents, the senior citizens... there is literally everybody.

But then you see a twenty-something girl walking down the pathway. She's wearing tight high-waisted black shorts, a blouse showing a bit of her cleavage, and her hair is tossed into a high pony tail. If she was the walking planet earth, her skin would be the water percentage - covering more than land. You scan her up and down and judge her, even though you tell yourself that deep down you never judge people or act prejudice. But... her outfit is so revealing. You begin to contemplate a million things just upon one look of this girl: "She probably gets around. She's showing everything off. Her butt is totally hanging out. She must need attention all the damn time. I feel sorry for her." Basically, every single thought is negative.

This is what I am getting sick and tired of. Females being judge for wearing what they want to wear because it makes them comfortable - because it makes them feel good about who they are. Why should we be ashamed about the skin we are in? Their outfit choices or their make up choices do not always justify who they are, or if they're sleeping around with anyone. This also goes for men as well. If a man is walking around with his shirt off in public, am I going to say, "Well, he is totally asking for it?" No, I'm not. But I will say that I think that is unfair and women should be able to walk around topless, too. (But that is a whole other ballpark.)

1. Not all women dress for men.

Stop. Just stop right there. We have existed in an ever growing society where women have been labeled as "dressing sexy only for a man" kind of thing. In a way I kind of know where this has come from. Just like animals, people need to attract the opposite sex in one way or another - but that doesn't mean that it's going to happen all of the time. And it certainly doesn't mean that it's going to be from dressing a certain way or donning a specific appearance. Have people forgotten about personality? Actual conversation? Well, I digress. The point that I am trying to make is that people need to shut up and realize that sometimes, women just want to look GOOD FOR THEMSELVES AND NOBODY ELSE.

Isn't it possible to put on a pair of amazingly tight skinny jeans that fit so perfectly, and to throw on an admirable tank top? Yes? No? I think it is. I've done this multiple times. I've dressed up for literally no reason at all, and I feel so beautiful with no intention whatsoever, except that I am happy. We have to remember that women like to give themselves self love. When I dress up or wear a skirt or do my make up professionally from time to time, I usually get someone to say "Who you all dressed up for? A man?" No, honey. I'm dressed up for my damn self. I like to treat myself, make sure I spoil myself and get enough self love . . . and remind myself that I am utterly adorable. Wake up, and get over yourselves.

2. If she's wearing a short skirt, she's not "pure."

. . . or whatever you want to call it. Most people these days think that if a girl is dressed like that, she is dirty. Like, are you serious!? She isn't necessarily "asking for it." Oh my oh my, that is definitely one of my biggest pet peeves. "That boy went after her because she was dressed inappropriately. She asked for it, so it was her fault." No, that is absolutely sick if you think about it that way. It's not fair that a lot of women in the world are just trying to find their own personal liberation and happiness, and yet we still get the end of the stick.

Since the beginning of time, we have all associated lack of clothing or dressing "sexy" with actually having sex and doing inappropriate things. It's kind of a shame, but I want everyone to know that women don't have to associate what they wear and how they dress, with the actual act of sex itself. Can't we just disassociate that and be sexy for US? Because we want to? Can we just not label anything and simply be happy?

3. It's a personal thing.

It makes her feel confident and it brings her up. She feels utterly fabulous for her! Putting on a bright red shade of lipstick doesn't make her promiscuous, and neither does putting on a tight dress or leggings. It's as simple as that, so leave her alone.

4. Stop making females feel guilty for being who they are.

There have been so many instances that I have put together a really cute outfit that just screams "Julia," and then the next day I linger around in my closet and start second guessing on whether or not I should wear it. This really sucks, and it hurts because I don't want to feel like this. I don't want to feel guilty or judged for dressing how I want to or being who I am. There is just so much of me that hasn't broken free yet. An example is the stigma that comes along with dressing a "certain way."

That stigma is being afraid of wearing tight jeans or a revealing top because we don't want men looking at us a specific way, and then it's back to the repetitive cycle of crude naming of women, and thinking that they are "asking for it." This is just how it's always been and it sucks and it's sad, and quite unfortunate. Now, don't think that I'm a "man hater" or anything, because I'm not. But since pretty much, ever, women have become an object of lust. It's all over the media, and it's in everything we digest. I want to live in a world where I don't have to feel shame for wanting to dress like that - because I want to, and not have to feel insecure or weird or having a guy look at me the wrong way. Also not because I'm asking for it. I'm not.

5. Did you forget that sometimes it's bloody hot outside?

And uh, we can't control the weather. (Though maybe we can someday. Technology is ever growing and changing. . . that was a lame joke.) Girls get into trouble for wearing short shorts or sometimes even shorts in general. I've seen and heard a lot about girls in high school that get criticized and embarrassed for wearing what they do when the warm weather starts to come into play. I remember wearing a pencil skirt when I was in high school, and being called into the principal's office because there were complaints about what I was wearing. What is this life!? There were also instances where I got in trouble for wearing tank tops or just showing my shoulders while in school. Ohhh, look out everyone. My shoulders and I are here to seduce you...

Sometimes, we might as well just put on a snow suit or a freaking sweater. Bottom line: it's summer. It's hot. It's bloody hot sometimes. Women gotta do what they gotta do just so they don't sweat their skin off, just like anyone else.

So that's it. That is my spiel. Of course I'm not saying that everyone should be pouncing around with their lady parts hanging out - but if a girl wants to wear what she wants to wear, then so be it. She is not hurting anybody and why should she have to lessen who she is for the sake of society? For the sake of dodging those unfair comments of "She asked for it. It's her fault," and countless others? I know that this might seem minuscule and simple, but it's really not when you look at it from a different perspective. The wardrobe of women has come a long way in all seriousness and has effected a lot of individuals - male and female. These beautiful women have a life to live, and this is just the start. Let's make some changes.